Tell me to stop being pathetic!

[emanon]

My daughter has had a bug which caused d&v - she is feeling much better now. I don't deal at all well with vomiting. My son now has had the exact same symptoms and I am sitting here, feeling very anxious, waiting for the yell from upstairs. I hate my little ones feeling poorly and I wish I could deal with it better. Tell me to pull myself together!

Well, you know what - it's really natural to feel anxious if your DCs are ill.

It sounds to me like you're dealing with it really well though so why do you need to pull yourself together?

There's always one thing that makes you feel wretched. For me, it's snot. Which is especially useful given that childrenare often snotty.

You're doing wonderfully. Your DCs are very lucky to have a mum who is attending to them when they are ill.

Thank you for your kind words Winky. I know we all feel anxious and I know it's silly. I'll swap your snot for my vomit any day :-)

It's not silly though. Your babies have been / are ill. It's very stressful. Also, you're facing a night of little sleep! It's enough to make anyone tense.

Vomit isn't great either. Three weeks ago DS vomited all down my back. Lovely. It's not like you can necessarily tuck them up with a bowl of chicken soup and leave them to it leave I do with DH!

Come Sunday night, you'll be weary but the DCs will be well again.

ditto winkywinkola's words emanon. I'm lucky in that, up until now, my two DCs have been relatively vomit free by some standards but when it does happen, it usually happens big time. I deal with it by singing! Singing gently to them while they are vomitting and singing while I am clearing up . No idea why but it works for me.

welll...I would if it were you ill....

bit it is your DC's. so it is ok to feel like this

normal even

so

do not feel pathetic, feel fab that you are being a normal mummy!

.. and always bear in mind that childrens' vomit is nowhere near as bad as adult vomit

Pretend you're a nurse. Try to think of them as your patients, rather than your children. It helps you to stay calm and to be able to calm them down too. You can fall apart later

I have a daughter with a chronic illness, who spends a fair bit of time in hospital, and that is how I have learned to deal with it. If I get upset, she howls. If I am calm and dispassionate, she deals with it much better.

Thinking of you x

Thank you all for your kindness. It is reassuring to know that us Mums suffer in a similar way. I just wish I could generate a feeling of calm within myself. The reality is never as bad an the anticipation!

I used to BE a nurse, and I could deal with ANYTHING at all (won't give you TMI - Yuck) except........the dreaded vomit! Soon as patient started vomiting I was retching myself. Hopeless. NEVER got used to it, all that I managed was to get the retching down to a sort of controlled heaving. Which made the poor patients feel great of course, but most usually managed to have a laugh about it.

Dont beat yourself up, it is just one of those things, and when it's your own flesh and blood its ten times worse! I am very calm in the face of terrible accidents etc. Unless it's DS involved and then I fly into a blind panic!

xxxx