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Persistent peri-anal pain, blood and fatigue with conflicting medical advice

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TidyOchreDeer · 15/06/2026 14:34

This is so embarrassing to share but I'm absolutely at my wits end and just at a total loss of what to do. I keep doing research and just scaring myself even more.

Since february I've (F30) been dealing with persistant pain in my peri-anal area, so bad at times I've been to A&E 4 times and to my GP 5 times. I feel like I keep getting a different outcome every time I see a Dr and I'm absolutely SICK to my back teeth of the Dr sitting in front of me, arguing and disagreeing with what the last Dr I saw has said/advised, it is absolutely demoralising and confusing when I'm in so much pain and just trying to trust what the Dr is saying and get some answers.

First Dr said it was a peri-anal infection - definitely not an abscess, 2nd Dr a week later said it was definitely a peri-anal abscess, then next Dr said nope not an abscess and gave me more antibiotics. Long story short, a Dr I saw a few weeks ago looked at me and said 'why hasn't anyone referred you for further testing?' - I was like, you tell me, I don't know. So she referred me for a bowel inflammation stool sample, a full blood panel and a sigmoidoscopy with strict instruction that if the pain is to flare up badly again to head straight to A&E.

Last Monday I was in a world of pain, so I went to A&E, Dr is grilling me about why I've only been referred for sigmoid and not colonoscopy?? I was like ?? I don't know. She then suggested it could be recto-vaginal endometriosis. She did a rectal exam and didn't note anything suspicious and said it looked 'normal', despite feeling so sore and as if I've been blow torched, blood in my stool, blood and mucus when wiping so she suggested something internal going on. They expedited my referral and I'm having the sigmoid done on the 24th of June.

My blood tests results are just borderline normal on most things, hemoglobin just above normal and ferritin level is only 17 which they don't seem concerned about even though it has tanked from a blood test I had last year which my ferritin was around 50, but I am so tired all of the time, its like a relentless tiredness that just doesn't let up, I'm falling asleep at my desk in the afternoon, as soon as I sit down in the evening, I wake up feeling exhausted after a full nights sleep, struggling to get through my day or keep up with the normal things I do. I ran a half marathon last year and this year it exhausts me just taking the dog for a walk!

Amongst all of this I've had 4 courses of antibiotics, the recent one was a 28 day course that have done absolutely nothing. I've also been prescribed alverine citrate to help with the stomach ache. I've had a hot water bottle strapped to me constantly due to lower back ache and stomach ache. I've had to change the type of underwear I wear due to the pain and sensitivity in the area, I've also switched to wipes instead of toilet paper and I've been using a sitz bath / handheld bidet.

My symptoms:
fatigue and brain fog
loss of appetite
feel full very quickly when I eat so not eating full meals
lower back ache and dull achey feeling all through my hips and pelvis that sometimes radiates through my legs
stomach cramps and pains
blood and mucus in stool and when wiping or in my underwear
extremely sore in the peri-anal area, sometimes it starts as an itch and turns into feeling like I've been blow torched / the area often feels really swollen and the skin really stings, there has been times I've literally sat with an ice pack on it because it gets so hot and sore.

Any ideas what I should do? Anyone been in a similar situation? I've stumbled across information about bowel / rectal cancer online and now I'm terrified and just feel at my wits end with getting the doctors to listen to me. I just want to feel normal again.

OP posts:
Musicaltheatremum · 15/06/2026 14:58

Have you been tested for inflammatory bowel disease especially Crohn's. You need a faecal calprotectin for this. Your brain fog and fatigue could be due to your ferritin and this could be caused by some sort of malabsorption. Your bleeding probably isn't causing the low ferritin by itself.
Coeliac is another thing to look at but Crohn's can affect you from the mouth to the anus so higher of list of differential diagnoses.
I hate the way medical people are saying "why have you not been referred for X or y ....I'm like I'm not the doctor, you are...

Good luck and keep pushing

Shorkie · 15/06/2026 20:57

Hello @Musicaltheatremum, yes sorry forgot to include that in the OP, crohns and IBD has been mentioned by one of the Drs, my feacal calprotectin came back normal at 33, although I’m not sure I did it probably, followed all instructions but really didn’t look like there was much stool in the tube by time I dropped it off a couple of hours later. Sorry for TMI but my stool is very sticky and mucus-y so it was quite difficult to get it to go into the grooves in the stick 🙈 I might ask to repeat this one.
its so annoying isn’t it, I am so so sick of it. I’ve gone through each appointment note on the NHS app and maybe if they wrote the appts up better we wouldn’t have this trouble. Dr at A&E last week waxed lyrical about recto-vaginal endo and then hasn’t put anything about it on the notes 🫩 feel like im screaming into a void.
Thank you 🙏🏼 and thanks for the reply x

Jewelcake · 15/06/2026 21:05

What is very hard is going multiple times to ED. In A&E you see junior doctors who may not have much exposure. Whilst hard, you need to keep going to your GP. This is the way to get to colorectal/ gastro. If you keep going to the GP they will try and expedite your referral. You have to know that the main thing they are deciding on emergency dept, is do I need to admit you. If not sick enough, they will give you a number of different diagnoses and antibodies or other meds. If you need proper investigation you have to repeatedly go to your GP and get them to refer you urgently. Nhs is broken and shouldn’t work like this but it is the way it is

Shorkie · 15/06/2026 22:22

@Jewelcake unfortunately, it’s actually my GP that keep sending me to A&E, I always try and contact them first and even went to an appointment to which the GP’s only advice was to send me up to A&E with a letter from them. Luckily they have now expedited my referral, thanks to the doctor in A&E writing a recommendation back to my GP to expedite. I keep being passed from pillar to post and all I’m doing is following instructions from my GP. Luckily that has happened now and my referral has been expedited

ParmesanRealignment · 15/06/2026 22:29

OP - I really feel for you 😔. This sounds such misery, and you’re having to advocate for yourself when at your lowest ebb.

Have you had an x-ray / scan? Have they definitely ruled out any masses (I’m so sorry if this worries you)? I’m sure it’s not that, but these things can get overlooked sometimes and not be ruled-out soon enough.

Thinking of you. Hope you get some answers soon and start to feel better 💐 x

Jewelcake · 15/06/2026 22:30

That is so frustrating for you - and irritates me on your behalf. GPS should rarely send people to ED unless there is an acute problem. It just sounds like they have no idea and probably with the extreme long waits are just palomino you off to get you out of their room. am sorry NHS is so broken.. any way you could see a private colorectal/gastro?

FeelingSadToday1 · 15/06/2026 22:42

Oh OP. It sounds like proctitis. I am a long term ulcerative colitis sufferer and in the rectum is the worse. The pain is extreme. I hope the sigmoidoscopy finds the answer for you and you can get treatment.

Shorkie · 15/06/2026 22:50

@ParmesanRealignment no, unfortunately nothing, the sigmoidoscopy will be my first investigative scan despite this going on since February 😢 which I just find really bizarre, fingers crossed I get some answers from the sigmoid but if not, I will push for this to be checked.

thank you so much ❤️

Shorkie · 15/06/2026 22:53

Jewelcake · 15/06/2026 22:30

That is so frustrating for you - and irritates me on your behalf. GPS should rarely send people to ED unless there is an acute problem. It just sounds like they have no idea and probably with the extreme long waits are just palomino you off to get you out of their room. am sorry NHS is so broken.. any way you could see a private colorectal/gastro?

@Jewelcake thank you, honestly I think I’d be a lot angrier if I wasn’t so exhausted and in pain 😅 I’m just in despair. I’m only working part time as I’m at uni at the moment so don’t think I can afford private but I did speak to someone last week who said it is possible to go for a private consult and then be directed back to the NHS. I don’t know if that’s correct but I should look into it because at this rate I’m getting no where fast and it’s only getting worse

sorry forgot to clear quote- edit*

Shorkie · 15/06/2026 22:56

@FeelingSadToday1 thanks for sharing and sorry you’ve suffered too. I’ve just had a look at that and it definitely ticks a lot of boxes. The pain has been so unbearable at times it’s totally debilitating 😣

abracadabra1980 · 15/06/2026 23:20

OP I have had issues in the same area post menopause but with continual soreness rather than anything bowel related I think my skin is just really dry down there. Post menopause (where everything seems to head south) I had a twitching station around the anal area - like skin is healing - GP felt a small ridge and sent me for a sigmoidoscopy which revealed haemorrhoid/s 1 or more bonuses as nobody explained the results detail. I recently had a bout of folliculitis which was SO painful down there which I bought an antibiotic cream for and it cleared up after a week. I have to use nappy cream daily otherwise my skin rubs together and gets sore. Sometimes I can't clean the area properly after a poo now unless I use moist wipes - all post menopause. My eyes feel like sand pits post 9.30pm too. I had no idea menopause just dehydrated every fucking orifice and I too have crap GP now I've moved house. A PP mentioned going privately and then swing whether you can be referred via NHS. I did this with a 12 year old back injury and wish i'd done it years ago. I didn't ask, the lively Consultant saw i wasn't insured (just desperate for answers) and he put me through his NHS clinic so all my scans were free. My current GP has actually said the words "there's nothing more I can do for you" when I went to ask why I was unable to obtain my usual pain meds for my back which I've had prescribed for the last decade or more with no issues. I can't describe the pain my back can get to when it spasms, but she's sitting there wiring me the 'new NHS guidelines' and now I can't have Tramadol, Diazepam or Codeine, any more unless I phone 111 She could only offer 'Paracetamol and Ibuprofen' I felt like screaming. If they worked, I wouldn't be sitting there on the first place. It's the equivalent of offering you Paracetamol only, throughout childbirth. Are these people in the NHS to help us, or has their vocation now flown out intervene and wrapped itself up with all the rules and regulations that strangle us as individuals and make us suffer? I use ChatGPT to help me with all sorts of medical issues and I think it is brilliant. Try looking your symptoms up on that and see what it suggests and please try and go privately even just for one appointment. Mine was only £200 for peace of mind.

Shorkie · 16/06/2026 00:00

I’ve just realised my OP is under a different name than my usual name - odd! Not sure how that has happened. Me (shorkie) is the OP. 😅

ILoveMyCaravan · 16/06/2026 00:09

@Shorkie
please have a read of this. “Jess’s Rule” 3 strikes and we rethink - NHS primary care initiative x

https://share.google/zJPCvO3h0U2Iw3qMS

Shorkie · 18/06/2026 13:39

@ILoveMyCaravan thank you for this! I’ve written out a timeline of events and sent a long email to the patient liaison service and include this information in my email 🙏🏼 x

Shorkie · 18/06/2026 13:42

@abracadabra1980 agh so sorry you’ve been through all of this, that sounds rough! It’s soooo frustrating isn’t it. Seems like such a task just to get someone to listen. I have been using chat gpt, it is very helpful! 😄 yes I might look into going private, I wouldn’t mind paying that amount just to get somewhere! I’m going to see how I get on with my sigmoidoscopy on Wednesday and go from there x

abracadabra1980 · 20/06/2026 11:52

Good luck with your sigmoidoscopy - try and update if you feel you can? Sorry for all the typing my long post - I typed it on my iphone which isn't great for essays!

Pearlstillsinging · 20/06/2026 12:09

Have you tried keeping a food diary? It might be illuminating. I have friends with UC and Crohns and they both find that, although not the cause, certain foods exacerbate the symptoms.

TidyOchreDeer · 22/06/2026 16:46

Thank you @abracadabra1980, I will come back and update with how it goes. 😊

Ps. Just an FYI for everyone on the thread, for some reason I've got two accounts and no idea how, the replies from 'shorkie' are when I open it on my phone and this one is on my laptop. Sorry for messing up the thread!

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TidyOchreDeer · 22/06/2026 16:49

@Pearlstillsinging I haven't but I am a creature of habit and simplicity so generally eat the same meals all the time and I'm already dairy free (have been for over 10 years), but I should give it a go. I do eat quite a lot of seasonings etc - so might give the low FODMAP a go

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TidyOchreDeer · 24/06/2026 19:12

Hi everyone, just wanted to update you all as I went for my flexible sigmoidoscopy today.
Unfortunately, I seem to be no further forward. To say I am totally fed up is an understatement, I cried all the way home from the hospital and then some!
I told the endoscopist in the room everything that had been going on but quite concisely and she was quite shocked/perplexed as to why I’ve not had a specialist referral and that this was my first investigative test. Nothing of significance showed apart from some very small internal hemmorhoids that she didn’t think were the cause of my symptoms and stated quite firmly that my GP need to send me for a CT scan and definitely refer for specialist investigation, she was visibly annoyed that nothing has been done thus far, she repeated this four times and stated it would be included on my letter and she would send this to the GP. I received sedation due to the pain I was already in so after that I was a bit out of it and woke back up in recovery, received my letter with the results on and it just states hemmorhoids. I asked them if it mentioned anything about the CT scan as I will need this for next steps with my GP and they said ‘oh… erm… super long pause - no it doesn’t but I’m sure it will be sent over to GP via email’.
Now I’m very concerned that I’m going to be fobbed off by my GP yet again because they’re going to blame this just on hemmorhoids and tell me to get a grip, when I really don’t think that it was it going on nor did the endoscopist.
They even said they would band them during the procedure if that’s what it was, but they are so small (their exact words) they couldn’t even band them so certain they aren’t the issue.

I feel totally in despair about it all to be honest and feel like I’m just back to square one 😣😞😣

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ASuitableName · 24/06/2026 21:48

You are being treated appallingly, I would have cried too.
I really don’t know what to say or suggest apart from to keep hassling, perhaps complain to PALS. I didn’t want to read and run, best of luck OP xx

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