Has my Sis got a drinking problem

[Cosmo74]

Speaking to her DH today and he is a bit worried - says he drinks maybe 4 nights a week - 2 week nights and 2 weekend - she drinks vodka and maybe drinks about 3/4 bottles during the week and then probably a half bottle on Friday night and the same Saturday night - he talked to her about it and she says it helps her unwind - busy at work and home etc.. problem is that he use to drink along with her but they both realised they were drinking too much and now he only drinks 3 bottles of beer one night during the week and he would then drink on Friday and Saturday night too - should I be worried - and talk to her or maybe he is reading too much into it?

My Mum would die if she knew how much she drank as we are not from a big drinking family although her DH is?

am confused - how much do you need to drink to be an alcoholic?

How much is too simplistic, but always a good indicator if it is on a regular basis, which defo seems to be the case here.

Sounds like she has already admitted to having a problem.
Generally if you think you have an addiction then it's there.
You should encourage her to seek professional help.

good luck

Problem is she didn't tell me her hubby did! I do not know how she would feel if she know he talked to me about it - she is a very private person - but then that suggests to me she wouldn't talk to me about things- she doesn't have any close friends and although there is 6 girls in our family she doesn't really talk personally to any of us?

I just don't want to suggest there is a problem if there isn't!

I understand.

Actually, I was going to add something before and I thought, not my place to say this. But here goes.
Maybe it's better for you rather than him to say something because having her spouse point out the obvious might create trouble in their marriage and blow things out of proportion.

Someone has got to take on the role of the baddie in this type of intervention.
Be very straightforward with her. The last think you want is for her to feel that her loved ones are ganging up on her behind her back.

It's not easy, but it's worth it. I just re-read your OP and it seems like she drinks a lot.

Wait for further advice. I have no specific experience with this. I'm sure you'll hear more from people who've actually been there themselves.

xxx

Do you really mean she's drinking 4 or 5 bottles of vodka a week?!!! At that level of drinking, it doesn't really matter whether she is, or views herself as being, an alcoholic who can't control the amount she's drinking - she is going to get permanent liver damage if she carries on drinking like that (if she hasn't already caused it). Hopefully, someone will give you good advice on how to approach this, but someone needs to point it out to her, unless she really plans to kill herself just to be able to unwind in the evening, rather than finding a more sensible way to deal with life's stresses.

Does the OP mean three quarters of a bottle and not 3/4 bottles????

To be honest, whether it's 4 or 5 bottles or nearly 2 in a week, that is a lot of vodka - anyone who can get through a whole bottle of vodka every weekend is not paying any attention to their long term health. I think her husband is quite right to be worried about her.

Surely someone has been through this and can give you advice on how and by whom the message can be got across to her without being counterproductive????...

Whether she is an alcoholic or not is totally irrelevant. If she's drinking that many bottles of vodka in a week she will be damaging her health, possibly extremely seriously. That's the issue here, I think.
I thought initially you were talking about bottles of wine, and I thought, well, it's on the higher side, but OK, but VODKA - that's different!