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Feel awful after long hospital stay

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Pinkstuffs · 31/12/2025 05:44

Is this normal? I had my second baby by csection on Christmas Day. It was a semi emergency section; a repeat section but I went into labour which was fairly established when I got to hospital. I’ve had a section before but my uterus was very thin, on top of this the surgical team were worried they had cut into my bladder during the surgery. I’ve had to spend an extra week in hospital having tests/scans to make sure my bladder function is ok. I also had a haemorrhage which caused my bloods to be all over the place.

We were finally allowed home last night and now I feel absolutely terrible. Achy all over, exhausted, stiff and mentally slightly traumatised as I’ve been so worried about myself over the past week (baby has been fine!) - at one point doctors were seriously talking about me having to have a urostomy bag and further major surgery - all whilst I was on a ward watching people take their babies home!

Do you think this is normal? After my last section I was home in 24 hours and walking round Sainsbury’s a couple of days later feeling ok.

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HumberBridge2 · 31/12/2025 09:15

My hb was 90 after my second, and I felt absolutely awful. Couldn't load the washing machine (why was I doing this?!) without getting out of breath, going upstairs floored me. Agree with pp about keeping up with your iron supplements and ask for a different formulation if you are struggling to take them.

Congratulations on baby OP! I hope you feel a bit better soon x

TheFairyCaravan · 31/12/2025 09:21

I had one of many pelvic fusions, about 12 years ago, and the surgeon knew straight away he’d torn my bladder. It was stuck to my pelvic bone due to scarring because of the amount of surgeries I’d had so it wasn’t his fault, it was just one of those things. He repaired it there and then. I knew something was up, when I got took back to the ward, because there was a lot of whispering at my bedside and eventually the consultant came to tell me.

I was sent home, with a catheter in for 3 weeks, to allow my bladder to heal. Before they took it out I had to have my bladder filled with a special liquid and they xrayed it to make sure there were no leaks, which there wasn’t and it’s been fine ever since.

It’s not even been a week since Christmas Day so you’re bound to be feeling tired and unwell considering what you’ve been through. If you’d had any other sort of major surgery no one would be expecting you to be feeling on top of the world after 6 days, it’s totally unrealistic. Be gentle with yourself.

PermanentTemporary · 31/12/2025 09:30

This is a time to put the word out for serious support. Feels like the most you should be doing is to set a goal about being able to move around the house and stretch very gently with your pain managed, thinking about regular fresh air even if that means briefly standing in the doorway every day, or whatever physio advice you got if any (a leaflet? Something?) Could you engage a cleaner/laundry person for a few weeks, or would friends/family help out with that?

Pinkstuffs · 31/12/2025 13:50

The thing is there are a lot of people in my
house today and I really want them to go away! As our Christmas Day was cut a bit short my MIL etc have decided to descend on us which I thought would be helpful but instead they’ve been sitting on the sofa, taking over the tv and watching me load the washing machine/make bottles whilst they eat all my Christmas snacks.

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Pinkstuffs · 31/12/2025 13:50

I wouldn’t normally mind guests but I am finding it very overwhelming today.

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Nannyfannybanny · 31/12/2025 14:06

You should have put your foot down,NO GUESTS!

GentlyGentlyOhDear · 31/12/2025 14:12

I think your DH needs to suggest they leave or you need to head upstairs for a nap!

chisping · 31/12/2025 14:40

A long stay in hospital just on its own knocks the stuffing out of you. On top of that you've had surgery and trauma.
Just being up and dressed is a mighty achievement today. I can't believe relatives thought it ok not just to visit but to hang around.
Go to bed. Just you and let DH manage the baby and everything else.
Baby steps.

Nannyfannybanny · 31/12/2025 14:55

Omg, I just posted on this thread about patients self discharging etc. (yes, I was nursing over 40 years! ) my eldest DD had abdominal surgery 8 days ago, said she thought she would go for a drive today. I told her, no, she hasn't driven, but has overdone it, opened the wound a bit,has to go back to the hospital and it's a 60 mile round trip for me, on new year's Day 🤬

Telemichus · 13/01/2026 00:18

@pinkstuffs how are you doing? did rude family eventually leave?

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