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Husband snoring is killing us

9 replies

Bullship · 01/12/2025 04:29

We’re mid/late 40s. He’s not overweight, though has put on a few lbs this year. Smokes occasionally, rarely drinks.

He’s been sleeping in the lounge for 6 months. It still wakes me some nights, it’s so fucking loud. The lack of sleep ruins me.

He’s been shit at sorting it but did go to the doctors and saw an ENT specialist who gave him a sleep monitor thing that showed he didn’t have sleep apnea, so they then seemed to lose interest and suggested I get earplugs or we sleep in different rooms. Ffs.

Our relationship is struggling in other areas, this snoring is making it so much worse.

Has anyone been in a similar situation and got it resolved? I’m at my wits end. 2-3 hours sleep tonight and need to get up shortly for my busy senior full time job, slap on a smile and act like I’ve got my shit together.

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GTGGD · 01/12/2025 04:37

If he’s sleeping in the lounge, are you in the room above him? You might hear him less if you’re in rooms next to each other especially if there are wardrobes on either side of the wall between them.

Helplessandheartbroke · 01/12/2025 04:46

Snore strips off amazon! Game changer

LostittoBostik · 01/12/2025 04:46

Are you wearing ear plugs? Putting on white or pink noise so you’re sleeping brain is focusing on that rather than the snore?

I have sympathy. My DH snores and has mild apnea he refuses to treat (it’s not every night). He’s had a bad night tonight and I’m wide awake. Just going to get up soon.

Sbmpp · 01/12/2025 05:11

My husband has severe sleep apnea, sometimes he would stop breathing for a minute plus. It took years for him to see a doctor. He finally gave in and was tested and uses a C-pap machine at night. Such a difference. For him and me. I used wax plugs and molded them to my ear. They were a blessing indeed!

soupmaker · 01/12/2025 05:56

DH’s snoring was cured by having his massive tonsils removed in his early 40s.

Oioiqueen · 01/12/2025 16:30

Is it definitely not sleep apnoea? My husband was refused a test under one trust because he wasn't falling asleep during the daytime. However when we moved he tried again and apparently had 30 incidents an hour at the highest point during his sleep test. He definitely had apnoea but every Trust has different guidelines and cut off points. Might be worth a private referral if you can and they'll look at all the options.

Knackered1 · 01/12/2025 16:36

Silicon earplugs, a total blackout eye mask and sleep spray have saved my sanity. The earplugs block out a large amount of horrendous snoring and the eyemask means I tend to be disturbed less generally so sleep better. Good luck!

TheCorrsDidDreamsBetter · 02/12/2025 15:15

I would ask for a surgical opinion. DP was told by ENT that he probably didn't have sleep apnoea. We queried a deviated septum but they said it was mild.

We pushed and pushed and got a surgeon to give their opinion and he had a moderate deviated septum but really enlarged turbinoids.

He has had those removed and now only has a mild grizzle that you can hear when in the same room, and with no background noise.

He also feels much better and more energetic himself even though his overnight monitor showed little to no oxygen loss.

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