What would happen HYPOTHETICALLY if I was to have a 4th child? we might not, but were actually talking about it in the hospital bed after having our daughter.
I have had 3 c-sections, babies are big, pelvis is small.
the first one was in 1997
the second one was in 2000
the third was January this year, but with this one I was 'allowed' to go into labour naturally and try to have her as she wasnt measuring big (9lbs 5 oz later).
Thing is I had a rupture, I stalled at 9cms, and I was always told if I 'filed to progress' they'd take me down for a section, thats it. well I stalled, baby was in distress I was 9 cms, midwife wanted me to carry on I werent prepared to wait an hour to get the results back and was taken down for my 3rd section.
it wasn't til they'd opened me up I had uterine rupture. I had lost pretty mcuh all of it, the surgeon said I had what can only be described as a 'piece of clingfilm' holding it all together and was lucky not to have had a hysterectomy whilst they cut me open.
I am only weighing up options on how serious another baby would be. I have 3 very gorgeous children and would like a fourth but I wouldn't be crushed if I didnt have another one. (I desperatley wanted my other 3 and the longing was incredible)
I only ruptured because I was in labour, obviously by having a 4th, they'd be no way me or the consultants would even contemplate a natural birth.
If its something I would think about for the future could I talk to someone before I got pregnant? Not get pregnant and then be told I'm dicing with death. I'm not that selfish to risk death of myself or my child.
like I said we probably won't my last child was a girl, and my other 2 were boys so I'm content enough, I'm coming to the very end of my Teaching Assistant training, so once baby is old enough for nursery and I'm (hopefully ) in a TA job I probably wouldnt want to go back there again, age is not being kind either .
But if I did get pregnant, perhaps accidentally, what am I looking at?