Should i send ds to his dads when poorly??????

[fordfiesta]

Following on from my last post re ds always being ill..........
Have just had a row with his dad who lives 150 miles away. Ds was due to go this w/e but due to d & v obviously has not gone. Inbetween bouts of poo and sickness he is quite bright and when i have spoken to his dad on the phone all he has heard is ds in the background playing quite happily (ds bless him did tell his dad that he was poorly on the phone) so i can understand he is a little sceptical.
Anyway he says the only reason i am not sending ds is because i dont trust him to look after him poorly.... basically i just think it is inappropriate to put a sick child in a car for 2 1/2 hours!!!!
He then said fine i will have him next w/e instead..... maybe not unreasonable other than that we have payed up for plans for sat so it would have to be sun he goes then back here monday to then be picked up again 4 days later for his scheduled everyother w/e visit.... if you see what i mean.
I have said that is not in ds best interest as he will be shattered (even more so than normal).... we have finally compromised on ex dp having him in the week this week (and complaining bitterly that he will have to take a/l to do this.... sod the fact that i frequently have to take a/l to look after ds when poorly because he is not about to help) meaning ds will miss (pre)school but at least he is spending sometime with his dad....... GRRRRRR just moaning really

If Ds' dad lived close by, then by all means, send him there and let dad clean up the poo!

TBH ds probably just wants his mum anyway.

I think you did the right thing by keeping him with you

Definately not fair to make a child travel 2 and a half hours when ill with d & V, and presumably if he's anything like my DS he'll just want his mummy anyway if he's feeling ill.

I think you've made the right decision tbh. I would keep ds with me if he was ill and would not want him to be 150miles away. What if he suddenly got worse and was crying out for you?

How old is he? If it turns out he's 15 I guess I'll revise my response!

he is just 3........ think i am just fed up with having to cope with poorly child but still having to justify it to his dad when i am already tired and grumpy!