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Tell me I have to go to the dentist

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Sprogonthetyne · 10/11/2025 18:39

I've been dentist dodging my entire adult life and haven't attended regularly since I was a teenager and my childhood dentist went private.

When my eldest was a born and I had dental exception I talked myself into going, and it was not positive. Up to that point I had never had tooth pain, but after they did a filling I had no end of trouble (the tooth cracked around the filling and I had years of pain and recurring abscesses over covid when I couldn't go back to get it sorted. After covid, I had gone too long between appointments, so was removed from their books. I eventually paid to have the tooth removed as a one off (also awful, it cracked and Iwas picking tiny tooth fragments out on my gum for weeks), but haven't had regular appointments since, as at the time no where local was taking on NHS patients.

It's been two years since then, and today I had a ring round local dentists to see if any would add me to their waiting list to become a patient. I do this every few months and have been added to the odd list, but always with a warning that it will be years before I can actually register. I was super surprised when one said that not only are they taking new patients, they can get me in tomorrow! I was not ready for that.

I know it's a good thing and I should be happy, but I just haven't had the time to psych myself up for it and the less rational part of my brain keeps telling me that now I'm pain free I should leave well enough alone, and that all the problems last time only started because I went.

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Silverbirchleaf · 10/11/2025 18:47

Go to the dentist!

toadstool32 · 10/11/2025 18:55

Absolutely go. And this is from someone who hates the dentist!!

PixellatedPixie · 10/11/2025 18:55

The sooner you go the better. You will be able to save more of your teeth and experience less pain. There are special dentists for people who are scared and they can give you sedatives to make the whole thing less scary. You don’t need to really feel any pain at the dentist in this day and age with the right painkillers.

Sprogonthetyne · 10/11/2025 18:59

PixellatedPixie · 10/11/2025 18:55

The sooner you go the better. You will be able to save more of your teeth and experience less pain. There are special dentists for people who are scared and they can give you sedatives to make the whole thing less scary. You don’t need to really feel any pain at the dentist in this day and age with the right painkillers.

It's not pain at the dentist, it's pain after I've left and the pain killers were off

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FindingMeno · 10/11/2025 19:00

I don't understand why people don't go to the dentist if the option is there.
I'm terrified but I go in the hope of catching things early. And toothache can be exquisitely painful.
I also want to keep my own teeth as long as possible.
Go!!!

TeaBiscuitsNaptime · 10/11/2025 19:01

You have to go to the dentist. Choose one that are known for offering good pain relief!

mellicauli · 10/11/2025 19:05

I hate the dentist too. I have been very avoidant but I had terrible abcess that spoiled my weekend. But I screwed up my courage and went today. He was kindness itself and gave me antibiotics to try and save the tooth. I don't know what I was making a fuss about.

It seemed to me that dentistry has moved in to be a lot less unpleasant in the past few years.

It's just a check up so they won't do anything tomorrow. Then if you need more treatment you can give yourself a few weeks to work up to it. (But don't leave the surgery without making the appointment!)

So if I can do it, so can you.

Theunamedcat · 10/11/2025 19:06

I get it im currently in one out of town because its the only one taking on at the moment im a nervous patient too I cant even drive im so anxious I drive like a muppet so I literally catch the train!

ShrubRose · 10/11/2025 19:55

Sprogonthetyne · 10/11/2025 18:59

It's not pain at the dentist, it's pain after I've left and the pain killers were off

Tell them you want something for when the anaesthetic wears off.

Lollygaggle · 11/11/2025 13:29

The very worst time to go the the dentist , particularly if you are nervous , is in an emergency when you are in pain , when you have to see someone you have never seen before and have active treatment at the same time with no warning.

The best time to go is when you are not in pain , so you can build up slowly to being comfortable with your dentist . Seeing the same person each time means you form a relationship and problems can be addressed early before they become more difficult to sort.

Most importantly listen to your dentist about advice about diet and cleaning . It’s not how often you go to the dentist that makes teeth healthy , it’s a good diet and cleaning regime .

An appointment quickly means you haven’t got time to overthink things.

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