dd has broken her leg and i feel like the shittest mum in the world...

[yousaidit]

... she was crying thurs aft, is 18m and just cruising at mo, was playing in hallway, fenced off with babygates while i was in kitchen were i couold watch herwhile i was ironing, then she was crying, thiught she was tired as she is a bit grotty with changing sleep patterns at moment so i got her to sleep, she woke up much more cheerful but tried to stnad up, slumped down and started waiy]ling, so i pressed down both of hjer legs then she really started crying so i went straight up to a and e and dd was xrayed and told prob a toddler fracture but both bones in her shin broken. dd is being absoluetly brill at mo and we are constantly out walking in pram so she isn't aware that she can't be crawling or cruising, but i feel absoluetly shite, been crying over weekend and absolutely petrified that at hospital because i couldn't give a blow by blow account of exacrly how it happened they think its me and we're goiung to get checked up onand they'll think i'm a bad mum and they'd, dh says we're fine, but i am feeling shit and scaredx

You must have been so shocked to discover she had hurt herself.
You are not a bad mother.
The hospital will have seen it all before.
And also seen lots of parents who blame themselves, when there is no blame to apportion.
Accidents happen.
Hope DD is back to full fitness soon.

A friend of mine's DC have racked up 5 broken arms between them - they are 7 and 3 and no, there isn't anything funny going on. These things happen. Yes, someone will probably check, because they have to, but your DH is right, you will be fine - if I went running every time DD (19mths) wailed I would be a lot thinner and fitter and more wound up than I am!

Poor you, poor dd.

N experience in any of this except that my DS had his leg in a thigh length plaster when he was a toddler, and he certainly could crawl in that..and he could stand up holding on to something, too - so not sure why she will be unable to crawl? Have they told you to keep her off her feet / knees until it heals?

Anyway, childrens bones heal and grow very very well - she will be as right as rain before you know it.

Accidents happen. DS1 (nearly 11) told the hospital last week that it was the 10th time he had been in A&E

Thanks, i keep trying o stop fretting as much but i just keep thinking we must have looked like super shit parents at hospital. I have no shame in singing to dd when out and about with pram, v loudly in public, to keep dd laughing so she isn't upset.

You sound like you're doing a great job of helping her to get better, yousaidit.

I echo the accidents happen - my DS fell on roller skates in April and broke both bones in his forearm. I felt awful but it was simply an accident. He had to have an operation and was in plaster for 5 weeks but is now absolutely fine. He said it didn't hurt at all after the 3rd day. Apparently health visitors don't follow up visits to A&E unless you are there more than once over a 2 week period! Don't panic and I hope your DD makes a speedy recovery.

Your HV will call - it is standard after a hospital visit. Don't panic. It is checking you are ok as much as anything.

Any idea how it happened?

Children break, but they heal well

yousaidit - if they were really concerned, you would have had a social worker come to see you in hospital so it sounds like they were just asking you the normal questions. Your HV will call though which is normal to check on how you and DD is.

DS2 broke his foot falling off a bouncy castle when he was about 2. I assumed he'd just bruised it and didn't take him to A&E til the next day

He was fine - probably can't even remember it now.

Hang in there - these things happen

Thanks everyone, Flamesparrow, the only thing i can think of is that with dd cruising but not properly walking yet, is that she's stood up with one hand on the little kiddie table and chair set from ikea we have or the kids storage thing she uses day is day out, or setting ff from the babygate where she will stand and shout for agesa unil you talk away to her, and tried to trot off or turn or whatever, getting a bit brave and fallen over, as she is a definate leg swinger when she walks holding n to your fingers, there's no ladylike grace to her walking co-ordination yet! I am a wittering idiot who is convinced i've got a big cross on my head and waiting to be whipped away by crap mum police.

Thanks to tommy! All slightly reassuring posts!

Awww

It is only pure luck that DS hasn't broken himself properly yet.

You are NOT a bad Mum.

With the best will in the world you can not watch your children 100%.

My son has been in hospital when he fell off the counter and again when he fell off his bike.

Accidents happen.

My DD has also fallen off the changing table but luckily no trip to the hospital was needed.

However, her plaster -pot thing is covered in dinosaurs, which is ace coz i don't like girly girly stuff and thought dh was brionging her back with a bright pink pot (i was in neonatel having my 20 week scan! We even got a nod hello from one doctor who saw so much of me!) so we call the pot dd's magic sock and point at all the dinosaurs. Is that a bit too much?

No, make it fun!

When my DD had a pot on it was boring white so we drew on it.

oh tell me about feeling shitty.

My DS (then 18months)hurt his foot at a toddler group I was putting away toys, he started crying I thought he was tired so sort of say "ok XX mummy will be finished in a minute" he hobbled towards me and stood crying (really crying) I assumed another child had hurt him so told him to come and stay by me!

Realised it was more than the usual so checked him over and found his little foot was blue so I took him to GP then to A&E the xray showed a break they put him in plaster. 3 days later he could walk with the plaster on . Had a follow up appointment on day 4 they couldnt find a break and took the plaster off

I felt dreadful. It turns out a friends little boy had pushed a table over on his little foot

If i were you, i'd have struggled to not find the table and the little boy and re-introduced them to each other!! My neighbour just said 'don';t worry, you'll feel guilty for the rest of your lkife, it what mums do'.