Stroke after care - Dad

[Suzyi9]

Hoping some of you can help / give some advice.

My dad had a stroke last Friday, it was near fatal. He has had a clot removed and is doing well considering.

Dad looked after Mum a lot as Mum is in ill health with COPD, Diabetes and Arthritis. Mum can’t go out on her own as she is unsteady on her feet. They currently live in a house and I worry about how they will
cope when Dad is discharged with their mobility. I have made it clear a care plan needs to be in place but we all know how stretched resources are.

Mum and Dad have always had a turbulent relationship, always bickering and sniping etc and I worry about this now as I don’t think Mum fully realises what’s happened and that she will need to adapt.

It’s also coming up to a year since we lost my sister so everything is going on at the moment.

I feel completely overwhelmed as I have just started a new job too which I’m
not 💯 happy with. Just want to feel settled and catch a break 🥲

You would hope that a care plan be put in place to help both your parents, I would ask hospital and care team aware that you need to be involved with any decisions. It will depend on how well he is doing and what occupational help he is going to need, plus any adaptions to home.

I'm sorry that you've been having such a bad time.

My mum had a stroke at the beginning of June. The hospital would not discharge her until they worked out a care plan for her. I think that's probably standard across the board with all local health authorities.

Mum was entitled to 6 weeks. I think that's also standard. She was given 3 x per day. I'm not sure if that's standard. We had to get private carers for dad when mum was in hospital because he has early stage dementia and mum was/is his main carer.

Also I'm not surprised you're unsettled. It's very early days for you to get your head around let alone your parents.

Nothing to say other than good luck and try to focus on the things within your control. Sorry you're going through this.