Being sterilised

[muggglewump]

I got this done on Wednesday and I'm not coping too well.
I was led to believe I'd just ache a bit. I came round from the anasthetic (I can't spell that) writhing in pain and the nurses were really not very nice to me.
They offered me morphine and gave me a small dose but said I could only have enough for the pain if I stayed in overnight. I'd told them at every appointment that I am a single Mum and had to get home.
Two days later I'm really sore, swollen and upset about the way I was treated, especially as I had no warning as to the reality of it.
I keep bursting into tears, I feel terrible that DD has to see this and I blame myself as I pushed for it.

Anyone have any advuce?

Advice even

Poor you.

Sterilisation is abdominal surgery and IT BLOODY HURTS afterwards! (This is why I always try and talk the blokes into being snipped instead). Don't beat yoursef up over the decision- what is done is done and it was obviously the right choice for you at the time.

It will get better, but you will be sore for a few days at least. Rest up, no heavy lifting, take some decent pain relief ( I hope you were discharged with some) and cuddle a hot water bottle. If your wounds are very sore or weepy, make sure you get checked over by a GP.

I do have painkillers but they make me feel woozy.
I guess I'm more upset that I was made to believe that it would be really easy and not sore.
It's really hurting and I'm upset.
I'm probably being pathetic but I'm upset for DD who has to help me. She's 6, she doesn't need this

two of my best pals were sterilised and they said it hurt. they'd both had numerous other surgeries before, too.

i'd call NHSDirect and see if you can't get an appointment to see an out of hours doc tomorrow or go to a walk in clinic tomorrow.

you poor soul!

both my pals said that gas they use to bloat you REALLY made them sore for a while afterwards.

plus, it's done under GA and that can take some days to recover from.

Poor you. I was surprised how sore I was after and the anaesthetic definitely takes it out of you for a few days. I would say I fet better after a week. See if you can get any help at all with the children and go to your GP if you need help with painkillers.

I'm not sure I need a doctor Expat, I think this is normal, it's just that I wasn't told this is normal.
I'm really in pain, my stitches are killing and my tummy is really swollen but I think that's the way it is from reading around.
I wasn't warned of it though, they told me I'd be practically normal to go home and look after DD.
I guess I'm just feeling very sorry for myself

You will get better, a few days from now it will have gone away. You must be patient, pain wont last forever and each day will be better than the previous one. xxx

I find that surgeons are always overoptimistic about post-operative pain levels and recovery times, so I can understand that you feel a bit peeved and misled.

Its OK to feel sorry for yourself for a couple of days- make the most of having a reason to do nothing but watch DVDs and eat chocolate (and cuddle up with DD).

i'm sorry you were misled, muggle, and that you didn't find us here at MN first . plenty would have been able to help you with what to expect after this procedure.

please rest up! you do have some wounds there and that gas that was used to inflate the abdomen can hurt!

Thanks guys.
I feel a lot better now just getting it off my chest and your kind words help. I'm glad I've found such a supportive site