My PFB may have had a paperweight fall on his tummy today

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I think I'm being paranoid but would appreciate anyones thoughts

Reached for book on shelf at 10.30 this am, 8 week DS on playmat nearby, glass ball paperweight fell from about 6 foot, I thought I saw it bounce onto his tummy, but can't be sure

Why I think it's OK

• there was no reaction at all, no shock or crying response, carried on gurgling away as he had been
• he has been fine since, eaten, peed, slept, smiled, alert, responsive etc
• he is now asleep having had normal bed and bath

Why I'm distraught with worry

• could something have hit his tummy / elsewhere and him not react?
• could there be an internal bleed or injury that wouldn't present until later?

DH thinks I'm completely overeacting, got angry with my tears and has now gone to the pub - he doesn't think that it did hit him, but thinks that I'm reacting to what might have been, ie glass ball on the head disaster scenario (as is he tbh with his anger I think)

am waiting for NHS direct to call back, but any thoughts appreciated, should I just take him to A&E

Does your DS have normal muscle tone for his age?

I think it's fine, if it had hit him and had hurt he would have cried. Don't worry, especically if he feed and slept well.

I think so, he is considered to be pretty strong, holds head well etc, I don't what would be considered normal?

If a glass ball paperweight fell onto a baby from a height of six foot, believe me, you'd know about it.

Have a glass of wine and...

...breathe...

Thanks am breathing, and choking up at same time :-)

yes you'd defnitely know about it!
definitely have a glass of wine and maybe get rid of stupid paperweight

note to self, must practise emoticons

I think you are (understandably) very anxious and this has made your mind run away with you a bit.

To try and reassure yourself (like a temporary mild form of OCD) you are double checking it all and going over and over in your head what might have been.

Logically (assuming you have told us the whole story) the paperweight did not hit him but it has really upset you. Are you generally quite an anxious person?

All of us have "near misses" and they do shake you up. NHS Direct may well tell you to get him checked out, but only to cover themselves as they can't actually see him or you.

paperweight in cupboard (floor level), never to see daylight again

So, no mark? No bruise? No flinching/crying when area depressed? Normal eating? No prolonged distress/crying or strange breathing?

I think you can be rest assured.

When dh was taking care of ds he managed to dunk ds head in the bath so he choked and then he couldn't find a knob off a cabinet door and was convinced ds must have swallowed it - so cue long visit to A&E. Nothing at all wrong with him btw.

You are tired, your dh is tired (unless you have one of those odd perfect babies that sleep from 7-7!!).

These first few weeks are so hard, honestly. We bickered (dh and I), in fact had big disagreements when both dds were born in the first few weeks.

Don't read too much into his reaction. A new baby is brilliant but a shock and a big adjustment.

It is natural for you both to be anxious/tired/take time to adjust to it all.

Thanks all, you're making such sense

OPOL - generally v rational, but we lost a baby late in pregnancy last year due to horrible health issues, and I think I'm assuming the worst slightly because of that

So so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby last year. I cannot begin to imagine what you went through.

So your beautiful little ds is a much longed for gift after a terrible few months for you both.

All of us worry about our little ones at times, I think after the experience you have had these worries are naturally increased.

Yes definitely tired, definitely not perfect baby

agree also re DH, you're right there as well

Sorry to hear that POB - I think it's natural to worry and be irrational anyway.

I dropped a few nappies on 8 week DD this afternoon and my god did she squeal! Not from pain but just from the shock of having them drop on her.

So think you're absolutely fine Second the wine suggestion

Thanks all, feel so so much better (and a bit silly really)

what would I do without mn

Hopefully we have put your mind at rest a little?

Perhaps your dh will chill out over a pint or 2 and come back refreshed and less cross?

Maybe text him and say you are feeling better about it all now?

Feeling the best I've felt all day - pfb also sleeping like the proverbial

Will text DH now and tell him how fab mn is, and he doesn't need to worry about banshee wife when he gets home

thanks so much all, am off for that glas of wine