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Worried about my dad and drink - should I be?

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specialmagiclady · 12/05/2008 21:45

My Dad has I think a bit of a drink problem. He's just the kind of guy who can't leave a bottle of wine half empty. When my mum goes away (often - she's a very busy lady) he sits at home and gets gently pissed and a bit maudlin; I don't think he's driven home from a party in a zillion years. He's also very much of the "social drinking" middle class variety.

Anyway, he's retired now and his drink rate seems to have edged up somewhat. Obviously I'm somewhat concerned and feel like I should address this somehow. But then, why? He's not getting paralytic, he's not abusing anyone apart from himself, he's an adult with no dependent children. Why bring it up and spoil his fun? Do you know what I mean?

If you have a family member with an alcohol problem, what made you confront it? And what made THEM confront it? Is there any point in bringing it up ?
I live at the other end of the country so it's hard to know what the real situation is...

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ZeMNetterWithZeBigBoobies · 12/05/2008 22:09

I don't know how to help, but I'll bump it for you.

I hope someone can give you useful advice.

SubRosa · 13/05/2008 12:23

An alcoholic will only confront the problem, once they recognise it as such, and not just a 'habit'. My dad was an alcoholic and he would never admit to a drink problem. How is your dad likely to react if you mention how much he's drinking?

specialmagiclady · 15/05/2008 21:45

probably defensively I think. Part of me thinks it's just not worth it because it's something that's got to come from inside and really, is it so bad if an old man gets a bit pissed and isn't he allowed to embarass himself if he wants to? But then I think he's not that bloody old yet and I want him to know his grandchildren better and I don't want him to die and stuff!

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