Buckle up - it might be a long one. It's nearly 2am and I'm exhausted (of course).
My DD is 3.5yo. since she was born we have had constant health issues, she's literally always sick with something or another. I don't mean she gets colds, runny nose and coughs here and there. I mean dry hacking cough every night, vomiting several times a night 2-3 times a week, gastro, viral infections, diarrhea, tonsillitis. You name it, she's had it. Every other night she has a fever (over 38°) and that is NOT an exaggeration.
She has never slept through the night, she coughs herself awake all night long. She sits up in bed or walks around or snores herself awake. She must be absolutely exhausted all the effing time - I know I am!
From about 7/8months old she started vomiting overnight - all night long - I'm talking major volume and 5-6times a night. It only slowed once I'd nightweaned her from BF-ing so she literally had nothing to chuck up, then it turned into the hacking cough instead which sometimes leads to vomiting. The GP prescribed Omeprazole (even though I told them it wasn't reflux cause it STARTED at 7/8m) and that did nothing at all. The vomit still came.
Now, if she just cries, she vomits, it's like a natural response because she has vomited so much in her life.
She currently has Glue ear. We are waiting for surgery for grommets. She has had it for 6 months. She has had 3 ear infections since Feb 2024, she has had gastroenteritis 5 times, and HF&M. She caught impetigo last week. She's got a fever again tonight.
We've tried her dairy, soy and gluten free for 4 months - didn't make a difference. We have been referred to a gastro specialist and they did major allergens testing (skin prick) and she isn't allergic to anything they tested for.
She's on probiotics supplements for her gut and multivitamins for her general health. I rub magnesium butter into her feet and legs every night. She eats whole and healthy foods, and will drink well. Doesn't really have sweet food and WHEN she is healthy is a super active 3.5yr old. Nursery says she's kind, pleasant and listens really well.
But she's sick ALL THE TIME and I'm exhausted. We have another DD (11m) and now I'm sure that her regular illness isn't normal as our youngest is not the same at all. I had nothing to compare it to before.
I keep telling the GP there isn't something underlying going on but they just DONT HEAR ME. they just treat the symptoms in front and don't listen that I'm sure it's all connected somehow. Adenoids? Immune system? Something else.
The GP must think I'm nuts going back all the time but I'm honestly exhausted. I haven't slept since the day she was born. My DH and I tag team sleeping through the worst nights but it can't go on anymore I genuinely am scared for myself if it doesn't get fixed. I am at my wits end.
Why won't they just look at the bigger picture of her health and stop writing it off as one thing after another?
Please is there anyone who can help or advise? What am I supposed to do? 😭😭
How do I get someone to actually see the whole situation and fix it?