Supporting someone who has terminal cancer

[Crispynoodle]

Hello a friend has terminal cancer and I would love some ideas of how best to support him practically and also how to support the people who are nearest and dearest to him. Any advice welcomed

Practically-offer lifts to appointments, prescription/shopping collection, drop meals around a couple of times a week, offer to do a pile of ironing/hoover once a week or something. Thrown in an occasion trip out to a garden centre coffee shop or a pint out, if he’s able, a change of scenery and doing something ‘normal’ is always nice.

He will feel loved with any of the above offer of care/help and his nearest & dearest will appreciate it. Its mentally and physically exhausting being the loved one trying to hold it together and also do all of that whilst dealing with the fact you are losing the one you love.

I recently saw Richard E Grant saying that, when his wife was terminally I’ll, once a week a cab turned up with 2/3 prepared dishes from his friend Nigella Lawson and it was so helpful as it took that task of thinking of what to eat/cook away.

Give him every opportunity to talk about how he is feeling. Definitely offer to do specific tasks, the food is a good one. Ask him if there is anything he wants you to do after his death. I regret not asking my cousin this one.