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Do you get like this when worrying?

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NotABanana · 08/05/2008 12:18

I am taking my son for his hearing test this afternoon and so this morning we have been out shopping and DS2 had his lunch while out. I wanted something nice as I knew I'd be worrying. I really feel like my mind is elsewhere and I am not "here" at all. I was distracted and felt like tears could come easily. I do feel unwell when I worry about things but this feels different.

I know I will have to go over his history and all I can see is the scan picture with the two babies there and I want his twin too.

Sorry for moan. Only my hubby to talk to about this and he is in a meeting atm.

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KerryMum · 08/05/2008 12:19

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Winetimeisfinetime · 08/05/2008 12:42

Big hugs from me too NAB - hope all goes well this afternoon.

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NotABanana · 08/05/2008 12:47

Thank you.

Can't stop fretting.

Off to clean out the hamsters. Might as well do something useful while I fret.

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Niecie · 08/05/2008 12:50

I know what you mean about being distracted. The appointment does seem like a big hurdle and it does become all-consuming.

I had something similar with DS1 and various tests he had to go through.

It will be a relief when it is all over.

Good luck this afternoon. I hope you get the best possible outcome.

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NotABanana · 08/05/2008 14:12

1 hour until the appointment.

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ListersSister · 08/05/2008 14:37

Hi NAB
Good luck for this afternoon. I hope it will give you some answer and a way forward. Constant worrying is so draining.

I think you need to separate the issues you have about your DS being one of twins with his current issues - you don't want to be so upset you can't concentrate on what you are being told this afternoon. Have you talked to anyone about what happened to your son's twin? Maybe you should?

I am no medical expert, but I don't imagine being part of twins would affect your son's health now, so this is your issue rather than his. If you could talk to someone about it, then it might free you up a bit so you can concentrate on your DS.

I hope your DS will be fine. There are plenty of things that can be done with hearing loss if your DS does have this. Hopefully he won't and any issue he has are just toddler-akwwardness. My DS is always saying 'talk louder!' and shouting, but that is coz he likes noise lol! He can hear a packet of biscuits being opened from another room lol!

Best of luck - let us know.

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NotABanana · 08/05/2008 16:41

He is fine!!!

He had headphones on for hearing tests, then something put in his ears and then we saw the doctor. He said there was nothing wrong, he was a very bright boy and if there was anything he had ??? but couldn't test until 7. He explained by saying the sound goes through all okay but there is a delay before it reaches his brain. (I think I might have this tbh.)

He was very dismissive about what the cranio osteopath had said and agreed I was an idiot when I said I felt like one.

I was just so worried about DS2 and with my DH saying he had concerns too we had to do something.

Thanks all for being there.

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NotABanana · 08/05/2008 18:52

Us too! MIL was delighted and told me not to worry for a second about the money.

Off to text my friend the result who thought we were wrong to go private. She texted this morning before we went.

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Winetimeisfinetime · 08/05/2008 19:22

Really pleased to hear he is ok NAB.

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NotABanana · 08/05/2008 21:41

Thanks. Us too.

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ListersSister · 08/05/2008 22:15

Pleased to hear all is well NAB - you must be relieved . Do you need to repeat the test to be sure or was the doctor able to give you a definitive all clear?

There is a thing called auditory processiing disorder which can be confused with hearing loss, but I think that can only be diagnosed later, and it is uncommon. Good to hear the doctor thought your ds was bright , that is always nice to hear.

What was it that the cranio osteopath said that the doctor was dismissive of? How do feel about talking to someone about your DS's twin? Do you think it might help?

Best wishes

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NotABanana · 09/05/2008 13:08

He said he didn't need to do anything with DS so I guess we just keep an eye on him.

The cranio guy was getting that DS had been through a trauma and thinks it is possible that I conceived a single baby and twin babies, and that actually DS was 4 weeks overdue. That would fit in with me feeling movement at 12 weeks and all thinking I was mad. I told the doctor that DS had had a traumatic time with the loss and the birth wasn't great either so his little body had shut down with the stress of it all and this had shown itself in him being "deaf." The doctor thought that was rubbish pretty much.

I am fairly okay about the twin thing. I always knew I would conceive 3 and 4 but assumed I would bring them all home. I feel stupid as I lost the baby early on but it still hurts and upsets me. Everyone seems to be having twins, and some complaining about it. I shouldn't let it get to me.

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ListersSister · 09/05/2008 13:30

Glad that the ok from the doc is a definitive one NAB .

I know that my dd had glue ear for ages before we realised, and now she tunes out because she was in her own world for so long.
The problem with glue ear is that it comes and goes, so your child can hear badly one day and much better the next week. However, at least your DS has had it all properly checked out now, and you have a 'baseline' to compare if you think his hearing is getting bad.

What the cranio said sounds a bit odd. I have never heard that deafness could be a result of psychological truama from birth. Am I understanding right that you concieved DS and twins at the same time and lost the twins, and that he thought this loss may have affetced your son in utero? It does sound a bit offbeat.

As for you being mad at feeling movement at 12 weeks, well I know I did with my ds when I was 12 weeks - I assumed it was coz my stomach muscles were shot to pieces to! He was and still is a very active soul too lol!

ListersSister · 09/05/2008 13:30

Glad that the ok from the doc is a definitive one NAB .

I know that my dd had glue ear for ages before we realised, and now she tunes out because she was in her own world for so long.
The problem with glue ear is that it comes and goes, so your child can hear badly one day and much better the next week. However, at least your DS has had it all properly checked out now, and you have a 'baseline' to compare if you think his hearing is getting bad.

What the cranio said sounds a bit odd. I have never heard that deafness could be a result of psychological truama from birth. Am I understanding right that you concieved DS and twins at the same time and lost the twins, and that he thought this loss may have affetced your son in utero? It does sound a bit offbeat.

As for you being mad at feeling movement at 12 weeks, well I know I did with my ds when I was 12 weeks - I assumed it was coz my stomach muscles were shot to pieces to! He was and still is a very active soul too lol!

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NotABanana · 09/05/2008 13:47

Ds is the surviving twin. TBH the cranio guy said a lot of stuff he couldn't possibly have known about so I am happy with his treament of DS. He helped a lot more than the HV did.

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ListersSister · 09/05/2008 13:59

NAB, I have used a cranio with my dc's too and been very happy with what they have done. Just not sure that your one didn't go a bit far in what he was saying, that's all.
How far along were you when your lost ds's twin? Did you know it was twins at that point? Must have been a very worrying time .

Oh, and I echo what you said about HV's. I have seen quite a few and alas the bad and useless outweight the good. I was even tempted to train as one as I was sure I could do a better job. Hwr, you need to do a nursing degree first and I didn't want to spend 4 yrs retraining. There are good ones out there, I know, but quite a few who don't bother to keep up to date or who have (ahem)rather limited interpersonal skills.

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NotABanana · 09/05/2008 14:16

I knew it was twins from 6 weeks. The cranio guy told me things he could only have got from seeing DS so I am happy.

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