Should I do the surgery

[notanaturalmum]

Hi, please be gentle. I know I'm being an ostrich and possibly a bit vague too.

I have a problem with my arm (numbness/tingling etc)and have done for nearly 2 years.
After several physios/doctors it transpires that it's actually a nerve problem caused by a brain problem.
It can only be fixed by brain surgery- which terrifies me. Mainly because I'm scared of complications and becoming paralysed.
If I don't do the surgery then i run the risk of losing all feeling in my arm anyway and then potentially my other arm and then my legs.

My neurosurgeon is quite adamant (in a nice way) that i should have the surgery but I can't help wondering that its quite an extreme way of solving a compressed nerve.
It sounds silly as I'm typing it but i just don't want to make the wrong decision and end up worse off.

I got my tarot read and I got the "happy ever after card" so I'm hoping that means it will turn out okay. But I'm still so scared of it going wrong and then uprooting my husband and kids lives.
I'll be off work for six weeks.

Don't know really what I'm expecting from this post but maybe someone can help me realise that i should trust the doctors and get my head sliced open and then stapled back together.

Any thoughts?

Please listen to your surgeon/doctor and not make decisions based on a tarot card.

Lots of brain surgery is now done under local so they can ensure they're not damaging anything else. Is that the case in this instance?
Also, the first response is correct, listen and trust your surgeon, they don't do anything if they don't have to and a tarot reader is full of crap.

Let me clarify.
The tarot card was on the basis of me doing the surgery ie it would work out okay ergo I should not be scared.

A tarot can't answer that for you. To think they can is completely unrealistic.

What a horrible dilemma for you.

I would probably be looking at tarot cards too and don't actually believe in them.

Potential questions.

Can you delay surgery and see how you progress without repercussions?
Can you seek a second opinion?
What is your current surgeon's success rate?
Are there better surgeons out there?

Is there a support group for this type of issue?
I would perhaps look at counselling under the circumstances to help you decide.

Hospitals are on their knees. Surgery is not done lightly or unnecessarily. Talk to them but I think you are letting the fear win here. They simply wouldn't do it if you didn't need it.

Losing all feeling in your arm and potentially other areas is the thing you should fear.

Don't just look to the here and now. You will regret putting it off.

I think forget the tarot cards too. It sounds as though you need it doing and I too don't think they'd consider doing it unless it would be very likely to improve your future health.