Am I being silly?

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I didn't have an issue being disabled...this maybe a long post so please forgive me.
I'm in my late 50s and though have been different from birth. I've lived a normal life. School college work family marriage kids, etc
My so called disability is a physical one but I'm all walking talking etc
My only issues today are what most people have which is age related arthritis. I may need a hip replacement or a knee who knows.
But to me nothing is different with me. Than anyone else. I put that down to being brought up by parents and family who didn't wrap me in cotton wool. Is that wrong?
I've heard on the grapevine that at my age now, I should accept I'm disabled because I am !!!
I won't use a scooter or crutches unless I absolutely have too. I don't give in and I enjoy my life but there's a person tells oothers he thinks I struggle and it's about time I accept disability. DO I HAVE TOO?
This person is someone who likes to be ill apparently and plays. on ailments being much worse than they are
I'm not like that but I don't want to accept disability why is it an issue with him?

Is this a person you have to spend time with?
There are lots of people who, though disabled, live a full and active life, and others that constantly feel and say “I’m disabled you know” and it almost becomes their whole personality. People are different.
You don’t have to change to that mindset, but do change how you react to their labelling of you.
You can’t stop them saying and feeling those things about you so just let them carry on, but choose to not listen or let it bother you. Easier said than done I know, but it sounds like you have a great attitude, and you are likely much happier than they are so carry on with your positivity

It sounds like he wants you to join him in general poor health grumbling.

I understand how you feel. I'm in my 60s but still park run, cycle, do a class etc.

I'm not super fit, I never was, but it helps avoid most aches and pains, keeps my energy levels up and helps with flexibility & general health. My little sis spends a lot of time discussing her aches and pains, but won't do anything to strengthen her muscles or improve her fitness.

I invite her to come with me, to join in, but in the end we each choose how to live. You just have to let them get on with their own lives. No reason it needs to impact yours.