hypochondriac kids!!!!!

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I hope I have spelt that right?

How do you cope with them. With DD every day there is something wrong with her...I have tired plenty of attention, no attention, some attention. She is very very rarely kept home from school due to illness so she doesnt do it to avoid school.

it has got to the point now thoug where even the teacher has said that she will "try it on" in class - she doesnt want to go home she just likes going to the office sits there for a bit and then goes back to class.

i could probably count on one hand the number of times there has actually been anything really wrong with her ie flu cold type ofthing, she is really lucky in that respect, s hop do i stop this attention seeking. I have explained that one day there may be something really wrong with her and people will not take her so seriously as she is always moaning ad groaning......What do i do??

Are anyone elses children like this???

she is 6yo btw

how old is she?

I think its very difficult to gauge whats going through thier minds. Is there anything bothering her at all?

Does she not want to go to school?

My dd is a challenge, and I too find it very difficult to tell if she's putting things on or not.

How long has it been happening?

My DS is 5.10 and is a bit of a hypochondriac too. Nearly every morning he talks about 'what if I need to come home?' due to a sore throat, tummy ache or whatever.

With him, I think it's because he is a bit of a worrier in general. He's only had one day off school (when he had v bad diarrhoea so I had no choice!) and hardly ever tells the teachers he's not well, so he's clearly fine.

I give him lots of attention, but I don't give the hypochondria much attention. I reassure him that he's fine and that if he was really poorly we could deal with that.

This is quite a recent development, and he is going through a bit of separation anxiety at the moment (although no tears at school today - result!). I'm putting it down to a phase and waiting for it to pass.

Well she doesnt really complain about school, i really just think she likes plasters and attention and bandages tbh.

It has been going on forever....she will find the smalles pinprick on her finger and demand a plaster as her finger is broken (no exaggeration!!)

I know instinctively when my kids are sick...i can tell when they are brewing for something as Im sure mums can so I always trust that instinct and then there are times when I will humour her and play up to these broken legs etc but it is every day there is something wrong and it is quite tiring

its so hard, to know wether to play up, and have concern, albeit half heatedly, or to ignore.

I can't think of a way you could channel this behviour, I am sure you have tried many things.

If it is really concerning you rather than tiring you then maybe a chat to the gp? But tbh, I get the sense it's not prob the way you would like to go.

Hopefully she will grow out of it? My dd has obsessions about cats, which is i nkow very different but its constant, and wears me out.
myy dd has just turned 6.

Thanks PC ...sorry didnt reply sooner had to go back and work I thnik i will just keep the humouring tactic

"Yes dear Im sure your arm is not going to drop off"

I was a hypochondriac kid!

I remember I woke up one morning with a tummy ache that didn't go away for about 6 months. I was seven or eight. I had x-rays and everything but nothing was the matter, which I knew really.

I was scared of my teacher at the time, so that's maybe why I didn't want to go to school, but also just a big worrier in general.

I did grow out of it though. After a while there were just other things to think about.

I do think it possibly made it worse that my mum listened to every complaint with concern and obviously was a bit neurotic too. I can see myself doing the same with DD sometimes and think "stop it".

When I have the odd hypochondriac moment these days, DP sometimes ignores me (effective but annoying), but I prefer it if he listens, then rationally tells me that what I am experiencing is perfectly normal. I always trust him as well, as if he knows anything!

I hope this helps and doesn't just make me sound like a weirdo!