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My son 9 is still "leaking"..everyday! Is this normal?

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MissGelly · 30/04/2008 12:22

He was very difficult to pottytrain and wore night nappies until Y1... And everyday he comes home, sometimes smelling of wee, but always having leaked in his pants.

Is this normal or should I be concerned that he has really lousy bladder control?

It's really an embarrassing subject for him to talk about as well

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sdr · 30/04/2008 13:55

I'd be a bit concerned. Still having problems with my DD6 and no 2's. Would it be easier for him to talk to a doctor about? You need to find out whether medical or psychological? I would recommend a doctor visit as it sounds like there's always been a problem.

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MissGelly · 30/04/2008 17:08

Thanks for responding! I'll do that.. Just needed someone else to say that it wasnt quite right...

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LittleWonder · 30/04/2008 17:11

Meanwhile you can teach him pelvic floor excercises - it is the same muscle group - good luck!

MargaretMountford · 30/04/2008 17:17

am linking to a similar thread I started a while ago..might be of help ? here

jalopy · 30/04/2008 17:17

Agree. You need advice from GP.

mimsum · 30/04/2008 19:41

def not normal and you don't want him to be teased by his classmates

is he prone to constipation? cos full bowels put pressure on the bladder and make leaks more likely

ask your gp for a referral to the paediatric continence clinic - the 'poo nurse' at our local hospital is worth her (considerable) weight in gold

maxbear · 30/04/2008 21:39

Yes I would say definately get a gp appointment, he might be having recurrent urine infections which make him need to wee often and urgently or some other medical or psychological problem.

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MissGelly · 01/05/2008 07:54

No, he's rarely constipated, thankfully. Just the wee issue. We've just had discussion but he gets so embarrassed and hangs his head in shame...it's difficult to discuss.

He says teacher doesnt allow them to leave class to go to loo - they can only go on break& lunch. Seems a bit cruel that.

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MissGelly · 01/05/2008 07:58

Thanks for that link, MM. Sounds as if the other poster and I have a lot in common.

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bobblehat · 01/05/2008 08:09

My DS1 who was five and has always been a bit leaky took it to extremes last summer and constantly had wet trousers. I took him to the GP who did a quick test of the sample witht the stik, but it came back clear.

After a bit of gentle persuasion I got him to send the sample to a lab and it came back with a fairly unusual infection which took about a month and a couple of different antibiotics to shift.

He is now a different child, and no longer constantly has damp pants, which must be more comfortable for him too.

MargaretMountford · 01/05/2008 11:05

am a bit shocked that they can't leave the class to go to the loo unless it's a break time - perhaps you could speak to the teacher about this ?

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MissGelly · 01/05/2008 12:02

Yes, I'm chaperoning with the teacher tomorrow on a class trip so hopefully can speak to her on the coach ride about this. She and I get on well and i've brought her enough baked goodies so that son gets good treatment.

My younger, Y2, says they're allowed but my poor eldest says he's been told NO before when he's asked.. and another problem is that the teacher is forever out on courses so he gets a fair old amount of supply teachers coming thru..

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MargaretMountford · 01/05/2008 12:15

a boy at my ds's old school had bowel probs and used to have a little pass card to show to any teacher when he needed the loo - might this be a possibility ? ds's wee probs were really because he felt he couldn't interrupt the lessons or feel free to go whenever he needed and it was his way of dealing with it. Thankfully it seems to have sorted itself out as he goes to the loo as often as he can to avoid any situations.

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MissGelly · 03/05/2008 12:27

Well I spent the day with my son. He insisted he never had to wee, but I made him anyway and he'd always come back sayng that yes, he did wee. Did that about 5x and still at the end of the day, he'd leaked. And his pajamas are also wee-smelling, so it isnt just during the day, so I guess it must be entirely medical. I've booked a visit to the GP...I hope it's not too embarrassing for him.

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MargaretMountford · 04/05/2008 12:19

hope you have some luck with the doctor MissGelly - it is very distressing - thinking of you and ds

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MissGelly · 04/05/2008 14:25

Thank you

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paros · 04/05/2008 14:36

Bless your poor DS . They get so embaressed at this age . Hope it all works out ok .

ScienceTeacher · 04/05/2008 14:43

It's probably fairly common but just not talked about.

cory · 05/05/2008 10:57

The more relaxed you can be about it, the less embarrassing it will be for him. My dd still has mild incontinence problems at 11, but she is quite ok about it; she even took incontinence pads on the school trips.

I know my parents were always horrendously embarrassed and troubled by anything physical: vomiting, wetting oneself, diarrhoea etc, so I would have had a really tough time if it had been me. Since I came under the influence of my ILs I have developed a more relaxed attitude, and I think that's helped dd. She's been to countless visits to the urologist and has had some medication. The urologist was very good with her and didn't make her feel bad at all.

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