Sensitive issue DS

[MyHeartyBird]

DS has a sensitive issue that I’m cautious to mention here on a public forum, sorry if that’s vague but I don’t know how else to put it. There was a minor incident that happened at school that was sorted internally and put down to ‘a joke taken to far’ at the expense of my son. It’s gave him body confidence issues that he still has a year later which causes him anxiety particularly around public bathrooms and changing rooms. The subject of that incident has worried me lately as it may require being seen at a gp however my son is reluctant to let anyone else see. Should I take him despite that or wait and see if things get worse? I’ve read that It can solve itself as he gets older (he’s 12) or do I intervene now just to be on the cautious side?

Reading between the lines it's something to do with his penis? Size/shape/markings type issue? And I guess someone teased him about it? Kids are awful - your poor DS.

Tell DS that it's impossible to judge these things until he hits puberty and then if he is still concerned you will take him to have it checked out. In the meantime, try to remind him that our bodies come in all shapes and sizes, and whatever it is that he perceives to be 'wrong' with him, someone else somewhere has it smaller/wonkier/whateverer more than him.

It is yeah, Thank you for the advice, it’s just really stressful for him and I don’t know how I should being it up or make him feel calm about it

Has he come to you about it OP? I mean the fact that you know about it suggests he has mentioned it to you? I wonder if you could catch him at a quiet moment and just ask if he is still 'worrying about his body' and take it from there.

If he is, there are a million places you could refer him in order for him to understand that he almost certainly falls within the range of normal. If it's a size thing, a quick (and careful!) google tells me that it typically grows until the age of 18-21, so plenty of time for it to catch up!

I think the most important thing is that he a) understands that it's nowhere near a done deal at this point and b) realises that he is within the range of 'normal'

He needs reassurance and confidence building. And a promise that if he is still really anxious when he is mid-puberty (when he will be worrying about what future girlfriends/boyfriends might think) then you will take him to the GP to get a second opinion.

All this assumes it's a size thing - obviously I can't vouch for it being bright green with a 45 degree angle!

Bless him - I'm sure he's not alone in being worried. Kids are little shits at that age.

I've just seen your PM OP. I've answered you there.