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Fidgeting disturbing partner at bedtime.

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AmberPlayer · 12/10/2024 20:08

I've always been a terrible fidgety sleeper, generally a restless person so nothing of this is new.

Every night I share the bed with DP I wake them up or keep them awake for ages. This is really bad for them as they rely heavily on undisturbed sleep for their health.

This is either due to either fidgeting to get comfy whilst awake or once I drop off I'm having what they describe as anything from little muscle spasms, to flailing my limbs like I'm being electrocuted, to shouting. Then without fail I'll wake back up at about 3am and the cycle starts again.

It's at the point we don't share a bed often and I'll just crash wherever I can in the house. Obviously this isn't helpful for my sleep or health either and it's rubbish as I miss falling asleep and waking up next to them.

I'm always tired, I rarely if ever sleep undisturbed unless I've had a few drinks or take a sleep aid.

The nature of my job doesn't help and I can for part of the month be woken abruptly during sleep to be called in to work.

We have a good mattress, but small bed. The sleep room situation isn't conducive to proper sleep hygiene for reasons beyond our control and trying to switch off fully before bed is tricky due to either work or just family life. We don't have any more room for me to have a bedroom either.

Help please!!!

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StamppotAndGravy · 12/10/2024 20:13

We got a 160cm bed and one of the mattresses from ikea that promised you don't feel you partner moving. It does now or less live up to the promise! Two single duvets help too so you're not tugging the duvet when you roll over.

AmberPlayer · 12/10/2024 20:16

Thank you! We have not long replaced the mattress sadly. But another duvet sounds like a good idea 😃

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BestEffort · 12/10/2024 22:13

Twin beds!

I Will never share with a partner again it really affects my sleep. Single currently and it really highlighted to me how much poor sleep due to a partner affects me. If separate rooms not an option I'd have twin beds myself.

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