How do you recover from Glandular Fever when you have 3 children, no help and no money to hire help?

[Celery]

That's it really. I have been ill for 3 months, really really struggling. Finally got a diagnosis ( my own fault, I only went to the docs recently ). I had what I thought was a horrible flu type virus at the beginning of feb for 2 or 3 weeks. Haven't been well since - recurring cold/bad throat, extreme fatigue, feeling depressed. I'm sure if I hadn't had to carry on with daily life, looking after the home and 3 children, I would have recovered sooner. Anyhow, I'm supposed to rest apparently. Shame it's not an option.

You ned Cod unless you are Cod. She has gf at the moment and has 3 children.

Could you get an au pair
they don't cost a lot

I had GF with a 1 yo but luckily had a nanny and work kept paying me

I slept for the best part of 4 months

An au pair doesnt cost a lot????????

Contact your local Homestart organisation. I'm a volunteer and it's just the kind of situation we can help with. If I lived locally I would come and help you like a shot. I really hope you feel better soon

I thought they were £50 a week
or something

£50 a week is alot if you are skint though.

Have you any family that can help you out?

could your dh get some time off work?
have you got friends nd family who can help?
can you get a cleaner temporarily?
how old are the kids?
if they are at schoola nd preschool, or have naps make sure you nap too

how old are your children? are they at school? can you ask friends to have them for tea once or twice a week? Can you use the after school club? What time does your dh get home? Do you have friends with nannies or aupairs who can help you?

homestart You need to have one child under the age of 5 in order to get help.

Granted
but if you are really ill you need to get better and won't do it without help

not cod ( god, what a thought! )

no family help. no good enough friends ( not been in the area long. can't afford cleaner or au pair. Eldest is in school, middle one at preschool 4 days a week, youngest at childminder 2 days a week. Even just ferrying them around is totally and utterly exhausting. I guess the main problem is up til now I have just been trying to carry on as normal. Now I now I actually have something wrong with me I will consciously make the effort to rest, and dh can no longer accuse me of just being a lazy-arse.

Thanks for your suggestions. I'm so bored and depressed at this lack of energy and illness, the thought of even more rest just fills me with dread.

Could you take the little one out of childminder and use the money saved to have a live-in au pair?

Cod the person, not cod the fish!

I got the cod reference

Do you think the live in au pair would mind living in the boot of my car? ( sorry to be snarky )

I haven't even told dh yet. I'm hoping the realisation that his wife hasn't just been a miserable lazy cow for the past few months, will make him come up with a plan.