Hopefully you are sorted now Rainagainandagain
but for anyone else, who has the same problem of them coming out, exactly what you tried doing is the correct solution, pushing them back in, sadly I have a lot of experience of this so I have a lot of expertise also 😔. Similar to what Grmumpy suggested, but quite a lot easier. Mine come out after every BM, as I have grade 3s. So when it first happened to me I had no clue what to do like yourself, so I would just push violently, no effect what's the weather. Finally, I realised the obvious, they are stuck outside because they are like swollen balloons with a tiny base squeezing tightly on it (your butthole 😀), so the only way to get them back in, is just get a kitchen paper towel, fold twice and make damp, then just push gently against it. the second you start pushing gently the blood will be draining back into your body, and the hemorrhoid will be deflating, it will not seem like anything is happening, but just be patient! that is the key, after a few minutes might be longer for your first time obviously, you will find it is much more deflated and moveable, then just keep pushing and slowly moving it around, and you will find it will finally slip back inside, to its original position where it should be, and that will very simply instantly give you hopefully 100% relief, as it does for me now. If this does work for anybody, please, please, feel free to copy the technique and post it anywhere else you like, I don't want anyone else going through what I went through until I finally found out this really simple solution.