Pregnancy with fibromyalgia

[MrsOaf37]

Hi I'm 37 next month and really thinking about having a baby before it's too late. I never thought I could be a mother due to fibromyalgia since I was 13 and feeling my health would get in the way of giving my child my best. I have chronic ibs and awful lower back pain too for the last few years. But these last few months I've realised I'm running out of time. Does anyone have any advice or perspective based off experiences that could help? I've been married 11 years and my husband is supportive of whatever decision I make. My health means I'm unable to work so I don't have to worry about mat leave or anything. I'm just worried pregnancy will make my fibro worse, wouldn't be able to rely on my pain meds, amitriptyline and codeine and then I'm worried about not being able to do all the mum stuff after because of pain fatigue and brain fog etc etc. Please any experiences good or bad would really help right now xx

Sorry, I have expertise with this condition. But I would talk to my gp about the potential impact of pregnancy on your body and what it would mean medication wise. You could also talk with friends/family with babies/toddlers or babysit and then you can have an idea of any physical impact caring from them may have. Then you can make an informed decision.

I'm disabled but not with fibromyalgia, so I don't have a good understanding of managing pain. Pregnancy was tough for me but doable. I would think carefully about the parenting part though. My husband can be flexible with work and we have a good support network of friends and family if I wake up and find I won't be able to manage what I usually can that day. Sleep deprivation made everything more difficult but thankfully we're past that stage now.
My questions would be about what your support system is like, and you and your husband's expectations about managing childcare. (Obviously these things affect all parents but when one person is disabled there can be more challenges.)
Sometimes I feel sad to miss out on fun times with DC but I'm happy they've had those experiences with other adults who love them. There's also lots of ways to prepare things for the day and arrange things so I can manage things.
There's not one right answer to whether to have children - hope you feel at peace with whatever you decide.