Deleting somthing from GP medical records

[Alwaystierd]

I had a termination a couple of years ago but did not tell my husband I was pregnant (I have my reasons and it’s a long story)

I had this done privately as I did not want it on my medical records, he is a doctor and very controlling so takes a keen interest in anything medical. He’s even asked me to sign a form so he can access my GP records before

I only told the GP as my periods had become irregular but had emphasised I do not want this written down .

today I went to get referral letter for a new medical issue and in the letter they gave me my medical history included my termination- my husband has asked me to see this letter over and over again

what can do to have this removed or at least made confidential so it does not appear on generic not related letters like this? What can I say to the GP. I’m so worried I feel sick

It can't be deleted, it's part of your medical history. You can speak to the practice manager about the sharing of information, their details should be on your surgery website.

The real problem here is your husband.

This sounds like the tip of the iceberg. Is your husband controlling in other ways?

If you contact the practice, they can probably have an alert put about sensitive data, but they're not going to delete it.

You have an incredibly controlling husband op, that is your problem.

It can't be removed from your medical records.
Your husband has no right to demand to see these. If you're being abused or bullied please seek help. Call women's aid.
If you desperately need to show him something you could try and cut that part out, then stick it back together onto paper and photocopy it?
You should not have to do this though obviously.

You need an exit plan from your husband.

He sounds awful. I think you should ask the surgery to provide you with another letter that does not include that line. Alternatively cobble one together yourself.

They won't remove it from your record, they can't, but they can reissue that letter removing the reference to the termination if it's not relevant.

Your husband is the bigger problem here, but that's as close to solving the immediate problem as you're going to get.

He’s even asked me to sign a form so he can access my GP records before

Do not do this.
Is there any way you can contact your GP and give them your husband's name to alert them that he is not to access your records?

Is this the tip of a huge iceberg?

You're being abused and that needs to be your focus.

You need to leave your husband his behaviour is abusive. It is not his place to access your medical records or to ask to see any medical letters. The fact that you are so afraid of him finding out (of course you are entitled to keep it private) is also a huge worry. They way he is making you feel is not normal.

The GP will be very understanding but (like posters on here) it will raise an adult safeguarding concern.

In the immediate term you can tell your husband it was an e-referral so no paper letter (this is a real thing - my recent referrals to secondary care have all been online and I don’t walk away with a letter).

ask the practice / your GP to put a “s” (sensitive)
flag on your medical records: this should help prevent your dh from snooping

make it clear to the gp practice that you do not consent to proxy access and this should be noted on your file

your termination is an important part of the medical record so your focus should be on managing (out) your husband, not altering your medical records

Your husband is the issue here.

You can't get it deleted but you can ask for a letter not mentioning the termination.

Will your H be expecting to come to the appointment ? As they may well ask about it.

It's normal for doctor spouses to be interested in their partner's health and want to read letters.

It's absolutely not normal for them to expect to read your whole record.

He sounds very controlling, I hope you are okay.