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Exhausted hurting stuck in a rut and given up

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Cocostardust · 02/08/2024 16:04

I’m not sure why I’m posting this I just need some advice or someone to just say something that makes sense I don’t know…. 5 years ago I developed interstitial cystitis basically my bladder is ALWAYS burning like hell. I’ve been on various medications for it but I’m at a point now where the bigger issue is the effect those medications are having on the rest of me and my marriage.

Physically I’m a mess - I’m overweight, utterly exhausted all the time, I have no drive to do anything, no sex drive, any dreams I used to have have gone now.

Ive got two gorgeous girls 8 and 10 who are everything to me. Im 41. This wknd my husband and I were supposed to be going to a friends 40th which would’ve been two very late nights of heavy drinking and a long drive, I just couldn’t face it so pulled out. I feel like I’ve really upset him and I’m just causing so much disappointment all the time.

Ive seen so many therapists and been on so many antidepressants, pain killers etc… a little while ago I tried a super healthy diet but after 2 weeks still felt exhausted so reverted back to my old ways.

I’m having 1-2 alcoholic drinks each night to try to make myself feel better but I know I need to do something more long term I just feel so so tired and like I’ve tried everything but I get angry with myself I have absolutely no drive and no interest in anything or keeping anything up.

I’m home alone now until Sunday night first time I’ve been totally alone since I can remember and I just want to scream at myself to do something. I just need to talk to someone or for someone to flick a switch. I know it’s impossible…

please be kind xx

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CrunchyCarrot · 03/08/2024 11:04

My first thought is it could be oxalate crystals causing the burning pain. It's diet-related, what sort of diet do you eat? Do you eat a lot of spinach for example? There are many very high oxalate foods and these can lead to the body trying to get rid of or 'dump' them, can be via a variety of routes, but certainly the bladder is a common one. If you are eating a diet high in oxalate then the way to recover is to very slowly reduce your oxalate intake over the weeks and months then stick to lower oxalate foods.

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