Am I being a bit precious by not going to party today where illish children are?

[FrannyandZooey]

I can never judge these things. I am usually blase about coughs and colds etc but this time have declined invitation to party where one child has a throat infection and has been quite poorly (temp and antibiotics) and another has had an earache and another has a nasty cough. It is just a small party in my friend's front room with us and these other children, so lots and lots of exposure for me and ds.

I feel bad for shunning them though - they are great friends and we wanted to see them, plus as only a small party our presence will be missed more than otherwise. However it is ds's party in just under a week and I have tons to do this week - already feel like I am fighting off minor cold and don't know how I would manage if I get something else - this does sound wimpish doesn't it

oh dear what do you think?

not precious at all.

i wouldn't go either. and i always feel bad about it too!

there's an argument for strengthening your immune system by exposure, but sometimes i actually like having a healthy dd...

No it doesn't.

I live in mortal terror of going through all the angst of organising parties for my dc and then being struck down by something.

I'd hermetically seal them in an oxgygen tent for two weeks before hand if I could.

Dd very nearly missed her own party last year - I revived her with about two hours to spare. Talk about a close call/ nerves in shreds. I wouldn't recommend it.

not precious, no... busy, organised and sensible, yes.

twoud be precious if you didn't let your darling children go because one of the other children sneezed last Tuesday, but an actualy disease, when you have stuff to do and you can't have an ill child next week.... don't go.

so we aren't going
we will probably catch something deadly in the park instead, won't we?
and it will be karma for being mean about this party

if that does happen, then at least you will know that you did everything you could to ensure ds's party goes without a hitch.

except hermetically sealing him

I can see that hermetically sealing works for some parents...

I still think it is a bit crap of me though
I mean what if everyone declined to come to ds's party next week because they had heard there were things going around? (there is bound to be at least one child there who has been under the weather that week)
we could end up with a perfectly healthy ds and no attendees

Do it! Push food and comics under the door.

oh now you put it like that, I want to persuade you to go!

But that would be wrong, I still think you are right to stay at home.

oh I've said we aren't coming now, I just feel like a crap friend
I am partic vulnerable to throat things myself and if I lose my voice I can't work
so am being precious, I know, I guess my title should have been "I KNOW I am being a bit precious but please don't shun me"

well i asked a friend not to bring his vomiting / diarrheaing baby to my dd's party. there were 20 other kids there - why should i sacrifice their well being so my friend doesn't get bored at home???

well I have a separate category for d+v, I don't think it is ever acceptable to risk passing that on

but a bit of a nasty cough? the guilt

couldn't dh have taken your ds?

or is he still hungover

yes, i suppose...

no he claims to be feeling alright posey!

I think if dp or ds go we still may well get it, don't you think?

and i have just read the thread about only one child going to a dc's party

just to rub salt into your wounds.

i don't know what you should do actually.

well I've done it
so people can come and shun me now
oh dear about the other thread, it isn't my friend is it? she only asked 2 families and we have cancelled so she will only have one family coming

no, it was yesterday, i think,