Changed name to post about this as I don’t want it linked to my other possibly outing posts.
DP, who is 54 and my partner of five years has spent the last 2-3 years feeling unwell.
When I met him 6 years ago, 2 years after his divorce. He was not slim but definitely not fat. I have seen photos of him from the years before when he was married and he was very very overweight. He said he lost a lot of weight after the split.
At some point about 4 years ago he started losing even more weight without trying. He has a slim frame and a belly but his arms, legs and hips got very very skinny. At the same time he progressively developed what looks very much like a very big beer belly but he hardly ever drinks (probably one pint a month or less).
Over the last 2 years he appears to be tired all the time. He snores A LOT and normally sleeps 12-14 hours in the weekends. He would sleep even more if I left him to it. He says it is because he has a long drive to work (one hour each way) but he used to have a job which required a much longer commute and was never that tired. The final straw was last night, he wet the bed on his sleep (he was not drunk and had gone to bed no later than 9)
Compared to his previous job, I think he is substantially happier and much less stressed in this job than in the previous one. He complains about the smaller salary BUT it is not really interested in changing the situation.
I have been asking him to go to the doctor for literaly years, he was checked for diabetes recently and was told he was at pre diabetic stage and that was it. No more advice and he is not interested in doing any changes or even checking what he should be doing, in fact he is not interested in anything, he would be happy sitting at home with his vape and phone all day long.
I would say he may be depressed but then, that doesn’t cause a massive beer belly, does it?
Any thoughts? I know he needs to go back to the doctor but unless I find some good arguments to convince him to go back, I doubt very much he would be interested.