Open heart surgery

[MrsNandortheRelentless]

It’s the oddest thing but I’m taking my mum to hospital tomorrow for scheduled open heart surgery.
Got to be there for 6.30am, I’ve got meno insomnia so here I am.

We do not have a close relationship, I do things for her because I feel I should, I am obliged to do so.
But I feel oddly worried about her and have a strange bad feeling about it.

I feel a bit emotional at the thought of leaving her there in their hands.
I know they do this surgery day in day out, they are expert and are good at it, but I suppose I’m thinking about how vulnerable she is.
Always been a formidable woman, aggressive and argumentative, cruel and very very bitter. But now all of that seems to have melted away to leave this person who may not come home.
Im surprised at my own thoughts.

Rambling, wish I could sleep.

Hi

I'm sorry to hear about your mum. Our feelings are always complex when it comes to stuff like this. I'm not close to my mum but she broke her femur this week and is in a pretty sorry state and I feel sad for her.

I can't sleep because my lovely, fit, healthy husband had a heart attack today and it was so hard leaving him in the hospital. He's 70 and this is the first time he's ever been in hospital in his life.

I'm sure the surgeons will do their absolute best for them both. Hope everything goes well x

In the meantime I'm going to find a crappy film to stare at and hope I can doze off on the sofa.

Hi noki, thanks for your lovely reply.

Sorry to hear your lovely dh has suffered today, he is definitely in the right place and will be back with you soon I’m sure.

A crappy film while on the sofa sounds good. That’s what I’m going to do.

The next few weeks will be challenging, but recovery and cardiac rehab await so let’s get on with it I say!! What else can you do!

OP I'm not a heart surgeon but have worked alongside them and once seen open heart surgery being performed. It is such a skilled process. Your mum is in the best hands and complications of any sort are rare. The survival rate for elective heart surgery is very good. Hope it goes well for her and she makes a quick recovery, it's life changing for many people

@nokidshere I also wish your DH a swift recovery

Hi @MrsNandortheRelentless. Big hugs from Australia. I just found out that I need heart surgery in the next few months. Am bricking it. Have had nightmares already. I’m a very busy 50 year old. (Work and study FT, have 3 teens etc. Can’t afford to “make time” for the recovery and can’t afford to skip it.)

Thanks everyone.
I have worked in the field of cardiac surgery myself, I know the ins and outs, it is mind blowing, truly amazing and as you rightly say, life changing.

I just have a feeling that this is t going to end well. A dreaded gut feeling.

@MrsNandortheRelentless hi just checking in to see how you are and how the op went?

DH had his heart surgery today and all looks well 🤞🤞 and went as planned so hopefully he won't be in much longer.

That's wonderful news!

How's things @MrsNandortheRelentless ?

Thanks so much for asking!
All went well, post op chest infection nipped in the bud pretty quickly, home after one week.

Very sad but there were multiple things that were a reflection on how utterly broken the NHS is which meant that my mum was absolutely desperate to get out and asked every single day.
If im honest, it wasn’t a great experience for her, but she has us to advocate and question things, what on earth happens to those who have no one and there were lots of them on the ward.

Bit it’s all done now, time to recover and do the rehab!

Glad to hear your mum is ok @MrsNandortheRelentless, and your DH @nokidshere ❤️