impact of alcohol

[paranoid2]

My Ds is likely to be diagosed with ADD and dyspraxia. I have been researching causes etc and am getting myself into a state about the fact that i drank when i didnt know I was pregnant. I found out i was pregnant pretty much the day that my period was due and only had a small glass of wine with my dinner once or twice a week after that. I am worried about the 2 weeks between conception and finding out that i was pregnant when I was on hols and drank lots. I have been reading all sorts and driving myself mad with worry about the development of the central nervous system in the first few weeks and the problems that alcohol can cause. There is no history of ADD or dyspraxia in either family so there is no genetic link. I know that I am rambling and that lots of children have these things for no reason but am worried sick

paranoid2 - i thought the central nervous system didn't start to develop until quite a few weeks after that stage of your pregnancy? i'm sorry to hear about your son but i'm sure you are not to blame.
i got absolutely plastered at my engagment do and found out i was pg 10 days later, then found out at scan the period i thought i'd had was an implantation bleed and i was in fact 6wks pg at that time. went to gp in foods of tears who said millions and millions of women do the same.

no! you are looking for a blame factor there is none,your sons isnt likely to be diagnosed to be having a life threatening disease and sometims when theres no history it merely means no one recognised it before.
Its definitely not your fault you are seeing in the research things tht arent there you are blowing this all up-he will learn to live with his condition with support from you - if you want to research it on the net look at how to support him not how to apportion blame.

consider this your formal telling off

paranoid - I won a bottle of whisky in a pub raffle and drank a lot of it without knowing I was 10 weeks pregnant with DS1 - he's a strapping "normal" 20 year old at University.

I was strictly tee-total with DS2 and DS3 - they are both Dyspraxic. There is no genetic "history".

Please don't beat yourself up about this - no-one really seems to know why Dyspraxia occurs.

see paranoid - listen to hassled xxxx

Thanks all. I just needed someone without half a pea brain like me to reassure me.

I have been told he could have DAMP (disorder of attention motor and perception), ie traits of ADD and dyspraxia. When I looked up DAMP , oneewebsite said that genetics could be a factor or environmental issues such as alcohol in pregnancy. I wasnt really looking for causes but when I stumbled across this i looked deeper and it sort of escalated into blind panic