Ashamed of my weight

[FootballFanGirl]

I'm so so ashamed of my weight. I've struggled with my weight my whole life. Its always been up and down, I've never been slim. I put on lots of weight when I had my son. I was 22 stones when I gave birth last June. I'm now 18st 10lbs and I'm mortified. I'm ,5ft 4. So I'm am massively obese. I've been trying to eat better Herbie foods and trying to cut out all crap foods. I have joint pains and find I hard to be active. I have major anxiety, OCD and agoraphobia Al hough I have been making progress in the sense in of trying to get out for walks and more exercise. According to NHS I should be looking to lose a whooping 8 stones! This has depressed me. Its feels entirely unreasonable. Anyone got some tips to help me shift was his weight! I want to be healthy and I can't bare the thought of getting any bigger! Advice, tips and success stories really appreciated.

Don’t focus on the 8 stone figure. Think small.
e.g 1/4 stone down give yourself a Pat on the back, another 1/4 stone down will be an amazing 1/2 stone etc etc.

Don’t try and make huge changes overnight, you are already reducing crap so now reduce portion sizes rather than banning everything. Drink plenty of water and increase fibre, for example by sprinkling chia seeds on your cereal/in yogurt etc and increasing fruit & veg.

Healthy gut bacteria helps with weight loss, it balances glucose, helps you feel full and there is a link to gut bacteria and depression & anxiety. Cutting junk and increasing fibre and having fermented foods/live cultures can help. Kefir is good for increasing good bacteria, have a little every day, it takes around 3 months to boost to a good amount, so not an overnight thing.

If you don’t get out much, have you had your vitamin D checked at all? That deficiency can not only cause bone pain, but has been linked to increased weight and anxiety. Most people in the U.K. are a little low on Vitamin D, even if they do get out and about, so you might benefit from taking a high strength supplement. Many people are also low in magnesium which can affect weight and mood so magnesium glycinate or something might be useful too.

It won't take till 8 stones for you to look and feel better about yourself. Ignore the overall figure and start small. If you look at it at it's worst it will feel unachievable

You've already lost 4 stone which bloody fantastic 👏🏻

Don't feel ashamed! You've lost 4 stones! That's fantastic.

A friend of mine at work has just been prescribed some kind of injections by her GP. They're working by reducing her appetite. She's only been on them a few weeks but is very impressed so far. Could be worth you asking your GP about them.

Very best to you

If you have a BMI over 30 or Co morbidities such as diabetes you should meet the criteria for Omezapol injections to help shift the weight.

Worth talking to your dr.

Theyre not a magic solution but in conjunction with a healthy diet they may help.

Keep up the exercise too and set yourself small goals each day xx

Have a look at Intermittent fasting. Lots of videos on YouTube etc.

You can decide to start the journey now by telling yourself you are now going to start liking yourself more. Do some small self care things, light a candle, read a book, work upto going a walk. Tidy up at home, make a lunch you enjoy that will help you toward a goal and focus on half a pound at a time. You're starting now so be proud of yourself and stop punishing yourself.

try cutting out anything with seed oils in, apparently they’re pretty bad for us and they cause inflammation in the body.

I saw a programme once where people lost massive amounts of weight by consuming stews and soups, they fill you up for a long time but are not that high in calories.

then ramp up the exercise, walking as much as possible

saw another programme where people who appeared to eat whatever they wanted were often the types who would skip breakfast, or walk to work etc.

Hi Op I'm similar, my BMI is 37, I am 5ft 3 and about 15 stone, I also have mental health struggle and the doctors think some of my meds might have helped cause the weight gain. Could that be the case for you too?

I'm trying to be kind to myself and go swimming more, not just focusing on the weight but health. It's good because low impact on joints and I find it relaxing.

One chunk at a time.

I was 2 stone heavier 6 months ago well Christmas last year I was 18 stone at 5 ft 0 inches so as a proper short a!!e which gives me wonderful times with bmi.

today I’m 15 st 9.5 but I haven’t slipped back to 20 stone (weight in
late 2022) or 18 stone. I’ve watched what I eat, had some medical help but wouldn’t rely solely on it and exercised every day this year bar 1 day.

Don’t beat yourself up of stories I lost 10 stone in 3 months. Obesity is a long battle for some.

It's hard being short and fat isn't it, I understand. I just look round.

You are eligible for Wegovy or Mounjaro injections that can really help people lose weight and become healthier. Unfortunately you will probably have to pay privately. At 13stones (for example) you will look and feel completely different and it’s doable in a year. Dont be ashamed. Obesity is a disease not a moral failing.

I weigh exactly the same as you! If you want a weight loss buddy let me know. I’m going to aim for a low inflammatory diet rather than obsessively calorie counting in the hope it will come off gently and in a healthy way ❤️

Weight loss injections can be a game changer for those who have struggled with obesity all their lives. If you can afford it, it's worth considering. Take a look at some of the mounjaro/wegovy threads on the weight loss board. You'll find lots of people in a similar boat all supporting each other. You haven't failed by getting to your current weight, and you don't have to accept it as your lot. There is help out there and you deserve to feel good and be healthy. I am cheering you on!

Have you spoken to your GP ? You can get certain weight loss medication if your BMI is high.