ds has stinking cold....should he go to dads this w/e?

[fordfiesta]

Ds has through the afternoon developed a horrible cold.... is prone to getting tonsilitis (?spelling) with colds.
Problem is he is due to go to his dads this w/e for only his 2nd visit..... 2 1/2 hour drive away.... i do not want to get tagged as the mum who uses illness as an excuse to stop his visits to dads but also do not really want to send him if poorly..... What would you do? is it fair to send him or should i put this w/e off?

ds 2 (three in june)

bump... anyone

pleeeeze someone.... am i being neurotic or what?

I'd ring his dad and let him know that this has developed. I can understand you're worried about the drive and you don't know yet whether he will come out in tonsillitis as well so I think his dad needs to know your thoughts. Even if ds is really under the weather, his dad could come to visit him rather than the other way around, if you're amicable enough?

I don't think you're being neurotic with a child of 2 and a drive of that length and I think so long as you keep his dad informed and offer an alternative then you've done all you can

If it helps my ds 2 had really bad cold and went to his dads which is 1 1/2 hours away. Hes due to have him this weekend and ds has a chest infection, unless hes in hospital ds will go. I think its important for a few days notice to be given if dad can have dc or plans have changed here. If they are ill they will be at whatever parents they are at. If it makes you feel better write down what is to be done with ds to make him better/help him eg any medicines he has how much how often, if you put him in a steamy room and so on. Let his dad know its there and youve done it so he knows what has to be given when etc (i do as ex has a crap memory and would be texting every few hours asking what he was due)and to put your mind at rest a bit as hes ill. With ds being ill its important you get your rest to as they are much more demanding. HTH x

also tell him to take ds to doctors if he gets worse and to inform you immediately

Ok.... unless he gets a temp will be sending him to dads........ with a list of instructions!

Thankyou shelleylou.

Its ok i dont want to be labelled with that either. I do it every time i know wat his dads like and dont want endless textsor phonecalls. It also puts my mind at ease that his dad knows what wrong and what to do. I usually text at night to find out how he is. I better do my instructions in a bit after ive finally managed to get ds to go sleep, o well his dad can have that joy tomorrow

fordfiesta how is your ds today?