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Can’t work due to endometriosis and being judged for my choices about ttc

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EndometriosisHell · 04/10/2023 17:07

I have severe endometriosis and it affects me daily . I’m also ttc #3 (1 and 2 were ivf and we still have some frozen embryos)

I had to give up work a year ago as was off constantly anyway and feeling so dreadful. I have other issues too so applied for pip.

ive had comments off a couple of people when they’ve asked why I don’t work anymore that ‘surely it can’t be that bad’ or their cousins friends sister has Endo and she can work etc etc ……so I feel judged.

I saw a new gynae dr recently who seemed frustrated I want to ttc ?? Saying I should think about a mirena or even a hysterectomy! Pushing as to why I’m so against treatment- I’m not but I want to pursue a line of treatment to calm the Endo so I can do a FET.

I get the impression that people think I should give up and get back to work .

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Cowlover89 · 04/10/2023 20:48

Marchmount · 04/10/2023 18:14

You clearly just don’t want to listen to anyone who suggests that you’re being utterly selfish by rejecting treatment which would improve the quality of your existing children’s lives so that you can spend the next couple of years pursuing your dream of a third.

Yes your doc probably does get exasperated by patients who waste their time by ignoring medical advice but you want your 3rd child regardless of the implications on anyone else (including your poor first two children) so crack on.

Please ignore the judgement on here. Do what you feel is right. Hope you get your third baba x

POTC · 04/10/2023 20:57

EndometriosisHell · 04/10/2023 18:01

I’ve never been told I can’t be alone with my dc ? Maybe it’s different for narcolepsy as well?

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No, I have narcolepsy and have never had any restrictions on looking after my children. SS were happy that I'd taken appropriate safety measures.

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