Confused

[incognito786]

Hi I’m 28years old with two babies.

An angel girl who is 16 months

And a darling boy with is 4 months and I love them infinitely. Like I look at them and my heart could explode!

But I’ve been realising that I just don’t have an identity it’s almost asthiugh I don’t know anything else besides the kids. I don’t do anything else besides look after them. However that does come down to PND and I can’t leave them with anyone.

I barely even get changed anymore.

Anyone else feel like this?

I have felt similarly, but I was not very well. I say this alongside a big handhold, but it sounds as though you may need to seek some help. You don’t have to leave your babies with anyone if you don’t want to or don’t feel ready, but you do need to look after yourself too. Are you getting the support you need to be able to eat, sleep a bit and shower?

Your baby is still very little and I think everyone feels a bit lost a points. As he gets older you should get a bit of space to enjoy your interests again.

Just to add, what you said about losing your identity isn’t what made me advise seeking help. I think lots of mums feel that way. Your whole life changes and everything the defined you pre-kids sits back on your list of priorities. I frequently have felt lost, boring, etc when on maternity leave because all I do is look after the kids and try to get as much sleep as possible. It’s an odd window where Ive
always felt as though I’m not really IN the world. It passes though.

What made me say about seeking help was that you said you barely get changed anymore. I hope that you’re ok, OP.