Painful intercourse long time after baby

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It's more than half a year since baby was born (by section delivery) and we have tried to have sex twice.

I have a problem in that feels like its burning inside so its so uncomfortable we need to stop and I then don't want to do it again.

Tried KY jelly last night but it still hurt.

Any suggestions? Should I visit doctor? Will it settle down? Is it anything to do with hormones? Please help me. Husband is great but not an angel.

I don't have any advice sorry .. maybe you should see the doc .. but wanted to bump this for someone who might

I dont think Im going to be much help but after I had dd, I didnt have sex with exp as I didnt want to. I then broke up with him, and have been with dp since dd was 9 months, and we couldnt have sex because it hurt too much and I tensed up etc. Used KY Jelly but still hurt. I went to the doctor who had someone look at me at the hospital, and there was nothing physically wrong with me, as that did cross my mind as I had been stitched up wrong and too tight when I had given birth. So me and dp kept trying and it wasnt til our first anniversary before we actually had sex! not an inspirational story but i think its just trying to get past the pain really. I had also gone to a sex thearpist but that was because I started to tense up and wouldnt let dp anywhere near me She gave me some exercises to do (and not all were rude!) which did help. I would say perhaps check with your doctor and see if theres anything physically wrong with you, plus they can give you advice, and also if you try being on top, it helps as you have more control and it doesn't feel as painful, I found.

Yes, go to the doc with this. You need to have your mind put at rest at least. Sex hurt me for about a year after my ds1 was born for no obvious reason until the pain gradually went away(enough to conceive ds2 anyway!). Ds2 was a far messier birth and they made a bit of a hatchet job of my episiotomy but miraculously no pain at all with sex straight away. No logic to it at all that I could work out and I am damn sure it wasn't all psychological!

Don't despair. The pain does go and it's not your fault

I had a section also with ds and it took a long time for sex to be comfortable again. I would say it was a minimum of 6 months probably more. Of course, it's always good to ask your dr. about it in case there is something else going on. Otherwise, I would say, don't give up hope, it should get better.

It could be a vaginal ulcer. Yum... My gp found one when I mentioned painful sex to her 10 months after ds was born. Just ended up with antibiotic cream to apply and the pain went.

Are you breastfeeding? The pain may be vaginal dryness caused by hormones, which is very common in breastfeeding mothers -- estrogen cream is supposed to help by counteracting the hormone effect locally and is safe for breastfeeding, too.

More lubrication than you could possibly imagine does help.

After both children sex hurt for a while and I didn't feel like it till about 6 months after ds1 was born and the same with ds2. It hurt and I went to the docs too but nothing wrong. But it has eased now and is not painful at all anymore, but it took sometime and alot of courage to keep trying. But you go to the docs if you really feel the need, but it should get easier and less painful as time goes by. You are not alone in this and child birth does this to most women (not all) but most. Hope you can sort this out.