husband drinks to much

[nogin]

Hi there feeling very low at moment, dh of which i love very much is drinking so much , its now really bothering me, hes always had a problem with alcohol ,and can not stop once he has a drink , he has a lot of work issues at the moment and i know is feeling the preasure of this ,but drinking every night isnt the answer , my concern is this will get worse and is already effecting the children ,we do talk and i try to be supportive but the slightest thing and hes drinking , and in the morning he will say no drink tonight and reasure me everything is ok , this is a long term thing and is the only thing within our marrige that causes great problems, what can i do to help , i love him dearly and he is a good father when sober, but am very unhappy and dont know what to do ,

(((((hugs)))) how awful. time for tough love? what do you do when he starts drinking? time for drastic action - chuck it down sink? have huge hissy fit?

I also have this problem, and like you just don't know what to do. There's always an excuse to have a drink or several, crap time at work, crap time out of work, expectant-father-itis (although what bloody use is he upstairs snoring away I really don't know. On the other hand, might be easier without him underfoot.)

He swears blind he's no alcoholic (paints picture that alcoholics are unable to support family, work etc) but he is a problem drinker, and alcoholics are perfectly capable of functioning and drinking. The catch is that no matter how much we stand by them, ultimatly it is up to him and him only to accept that things ain't right and need sorting. In the case of my dh - total ostrich, despite ds's constant referances to 'lots of beerey'. ds is almost 4, I'd have thought that might have provided a prompt.

In my case life is complicated by the problem his behaviour is foul once he's had a few, becomes pure MIL-ish. (MIL imo is an evil witch). Also that I have a baby due in the next few days and am extremly anxious about how I will cope in the days following, looking after the dcs plus a newborn, as I know most of the time he will be as much use as a chocolate teapot. Thank goodness I am able to have a homebirth.

I'm afraid all I can do is offer moral support, and let you know that you are most def not alone, just give me a shout if you need to let off steam...! Like you, I love the sober version of my dh, and worry about the effect his behaviour will have on the dcs, as well as the health implications on both him and myself (ended up on prozac after dc#2, and prob again after this one)

Morning , thanks for support , and readytopop i feel for you , especialy if dh is drinking so close to your dew date !
My dh was the same when expecting , but did stop closer to birth and after for a while as i was and still am a worrier mummy.
This morning dh doesnt mention a thing about the last night drinking session , and off he goes to play golf with chums for the day .
Im so upset and feel churned up all the time , when sober hes the best man ever but once booze is around , nightmare he goes from, happy to depressed to grumpy if i question his drinking .I did threatern to leave him some months back and he did stop for a while , but now got worse again and drinking heavy every night . going out today with children and staying with my dad for the night as my sister who i see only once a year as lives far away is visiting , so dh playing golf then doing his thing with pals .
Be quite nice to have me and dc away from all that tonight ,and have a girly chat .
I do love him so so much but just wish he would stop drinking
please forgive my spellings , was rubbish at school.