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IBS support thread - anyone fancy joining?

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Myibsandme · 24/06/2023 12:28

Would anyone like to join an IBS support thread?

It is such a common condition, one which (ime) non-sufferers have no idea just how much it affects our lives and imo not talked about enough.

I was first diagnosed with IBS 25 years ago, at the age of 25.

Over those years it’s been up and down. Some years ok, some very much not ok. I’ve tried many things to help, some helpful, many others not so much.

However, over the last 5 or so years my symptoms started gearing up again and the last 6-12 months it’s been pretty much daily and relentless. I have had lots of tests, tried endless meds, diets, alternative treatments etc but it is still with me, every bloody day!

The doctors and gastroenterologist always say it’s ‘just’ IBS which I know compared with many awful gastro diseases it is but I do find it very disparaging when they say ‘just’ as it’s never been just anything for me as it’s pretty much controlling my life.

So I thought I would start this incase anyone else is struggling and we can offer some support and advice to each other, maybe there are things you haven’t tried which others have and can suggest and vice versa or just go on here to tell each other that we understand what you are going through and have a place where we can vent and describe our symptoms (I know MN is very squeamish over any kind of 💩 talk and if you do you dare mention anything poop related you are accused of being the poo troll!).

So I thought I would list my symptoms incase they resonate with anyone and what I have tried and currently am trying.

My symptoms

Daily gurgling, bubbling and growling digestive system from stomach through to intestines and colon, this is worse after eating and even wakes me through the night. I hate this as I worry what it might lead to ie, is it just gas, movement or will I suddenly need the loo?
I need the loo as soon as awake and often go to the loo 2-3 times a day. I am mixed so sometimes diarrhoea, sometimes constipated and other times ‘normal’. It’s often like squeezing out toothpaste! I also suffer from incomplete evacuation which I hate
Often have a disconcerting feeling like I ‘need to go’ this is most inconvenient when out and about and often makes me scared to leave the house
Bloating, especially in the evenings- I’m slim but can look pregnant by the end of the day. The bloating can be quite painful too
Lot of gas - up and down
I also suffer from functional dyspepsia so have lots of nausea, acid, churning and burping
My menstural cycle and being in Perimenopause is most definitely NOT helping the situation

Things I do/take/have tried to help ease symptoms

I follow the low fodmap diet, avoid dairy, wheat and my known trigger foods, I only drink water, I naturally do the intermittent diet as I can’t face food until at least 11am
I listen to gut directed hypnotherapy every morning and evening. I have tried the Nerva app, the IBS audio 100 and have paid for face to face hypnosis but I now listen to free hypnotherapy on YouTube as the above didn’t really help and is expensive
I have tried various SSRI’s but they upset my symptoms even more. I tried Nortriptyline but didn’t have any luck with that either. I take mebeverine and peppermint oil at times (helps sometimes, other times does nothing), I have tried probiotics, dairy free live yogurt, Kefir (🤢), fermented foods etc but again not much luck with those. I am thinking of trying probiotics again though
I walk the dog for an hour every day and try to do this briskly as any other ‘hardcore’ exercise makes me need the loo (I do seem to have a very super sensitive tummy!)
My hot water bottle is my best friend, I find this really helpful but obviously not so much in this heatwave and talking about hot weather, that seems to make my symptoms so much worse - anyone else find this?

Tests

I have had lots of tests over the years. In 2019 I had a gastroscope and colonoscopy, a ct scan and ultrasound scans. Last year I had a pill camera endoscopy. I have done several stool tests including calprotectin and the FIT test. They have all come back as ‘normal’
This year, as I am on an never ending quest to conquer this condition, I paid a ridiculous amount of money for a comprehensive stool test. It came back that I have lots of strains of unfriendly bacteria (not a surprise as I have such a boring and unvaried diet), candidia and dysbiosis. The company didn’t offer much help other than take probiotics which made me worse (if anyone has any advice on this or can suggest a good probiotic I would most welcome the advice) In retrospect I should have worked with a naturopath but can no longer afford this.
I have seen a few NHS dieticians who suggested the low fodmap diet but didn’t really offer too much support or advice, I have had to do this myself.

So that is my experience with this condition. I won’t lie, I do suffer from a lot of stress which I know does not help. I am a naturally anxious person but it’s a bit of a chicken and egg situation, yes stress makes issues worse but the more I suffer from symptoms, the more I stress about the symptoms - arrgghh!

I just wonder if this may be helpful for any other IBS sufferers and what your issues are, if you’ve managed to get a grip on them, what you’ve tried, what works for you , what doesn’t etc? Or if you simply want to vent because your symptoms are getting on top of you and you aren’t getting anywhere with any health professionals or maybe you have a great doctor etc and can pass on their advice which would be most welcome.

I am hoping this may help someone as I know it’s quite a lonely condition as let’s face it, we can’t freely discuss our bowel habits with all and sundry?

OP posts:
MotherOfCatBoy · 24/06/2023 18:16

Hello I’ll join although i don’t have a diagnosis.
I experience diarrhoea during exercise sometimes, typically after running and typically after a higher heart rate/ higher stress run. Sometimes this happens with brisk walking as well.
This has only happened post menopause and I find it really dispiriting.
It seems to be worse if I have been drinking alcohol / tired/ hot etc. I think sugar may also be a trigger. And stress. Needless to say I’m cutting down drastically on all those.
I can go a week or so without and then it will resurface. The best I have been is when I trained for a marathon and virtually cut out alcohol. I read that alcohol can damage your good gut bacteria so that makes sense. (For context I only have 2/3 units on a weekend now, not much at all, but post menopause I just can’t process it the same).
Otherwise I’m happily vegetarian and I don’t think I have any intolerances. We don’t have dairy milk any more and we eat sourdough. As far as I know I’m happy with most foods. I think it’s just a stress/ drink reaction that appeared as I got older. Does that count?

Myibsandme · 24/06/2023 20:19

MotherOfCatBoy you are more than welcome. Alcohol is definitely a no-go for me too, sadly. I had to give it up years ago as it would go straight through me. Sugar and dairy sadly have the same effect so they had to go a long time ago also. I understand the vigorous exercise thing too, anything too hard core gives me a bad tummy for some reason and things have definitely become a lot worse since I hit my mid 40’s which is fab 🙄

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MotherOfCatBoy · 24/06/2023 22:41

Sounds somewhat similar then. Good luck to you on your quest to change things!

SlightlyShostakovich · 24/06/2023 23:02

I'm very similar to you, OP. I have other inflammatory diseases but all Gastro will say is, 'IBS. We'll see you next year.'

I've had multiple tests, tried multiple meds and diets including low FODMAP, etc etc, and still I've lost a whole day today to painful IBS.

Mummumgem · 24/06/2023 23:20

I’ll join, no one ever wants to talk about ibs, I was diagnosed 9 years ago after suffering in silence for a good couple of years, I also have thyroid problems and heart issues so on medication for those which don’t help.

I have worked what I can and can’t eat by just trial and error, beef /. Pork/ white bread are big no nos for me along with eating to much brassicas and no onions 😢.

I find sometimes it just flares up out of nowhere, the bloating and back pain are everyday, but episodes can just hit for no reason.

i don’t think none - sufferers really understand how draining it can be, I’m shattered and feel so ill for a day or two after a flare up, it restricts going out, I won’t go out if I’ve eaten I get so stressed if I have to for any reason, but then not eating all day, then having a meal in the evening will definitely bring on an attack so I really think about going anywhere any length of time. I’m in a wheelchair, so I’m obsessed with where there will be a toilet just in case.

does anyone else find this hot weather really doesn’t help either

Lillygolightly · 24/06/2023 23:40

It’s been 7ish years for me, 5 since diagnosis. Symptoms really flared up a few months following the birth of my 3rd child and I was afraid to leave the house and ate Imodium like candy.

Stress and hormones seem to be my biggest triggers. I cared for MIL with Alzheimer’s 24/7 whilst also having a baby, 2 older DD’s and a business. The more MIL deteriorated the more my IBS flared, it was a truly awful time and I honestly felt like I was dying.

So many people including doctors and medical professionals do not understand how completely debilitating and painful it can be and how much it affects your life and ability to do completely normal things.

I have had 3 colonoscopies, 2 scans, countless bloods, FIT tests and more I probably can’t remember. I’ve tried FODMAP, Amitriptyline, peppermint, probiotics, mebevrine, obviously Imodium/lopromide. I can’t eat a salad, loads of veg and pulses are a no go, brown bread hates me but white is fine. My diet was already restricted due to migraine triggers and it’s so hard to think of what I can and can’t eat all the time.

Honestly can’t remember what it was like to leave the house and not worry, I still have Imodium in every purse and pocket in case of emergency but I really do try to avoid taking it if I can but sometimes needs must. I hate it!

sallysaysrelax23 · 24/06/2023 23:45

Hi I'll join. I have similar symptoms to you. No obvious dietary triggers. I think my cycle plays a part in mine and anxiety definitely does. Actually my anxiety and IBS tend to work alongside each other: I get anxious so I need the loo then I get anxious because I need to find a loo. It's very debilitating and has really started to control where I go and what I do.

Doesn't help that when you try to talk about it on here (because let's face it it's not a nice topic to talk about in real life!) some idiot almost always calls 'poo troll'. Kinda makes the taboo worse.

JenniferBooth · 24/06/2023 23:49

Hot weather and my sauna of a flat makes mine worse.

TappingTed · 24/06/2023 23:54

Does anyone else find theirs flares up with any illnesses? Like
not guy related illness but a different illness like a cold
or throat virus?

2020Gemma2020 · 25/06/2023 10:46

I have ibs too but mines the opposite, I get stopped up for weeks on a flair. It's so uncomfortable and painful.

I've fainted in the bathroom before from the pain of trying to go, it's not something that can even be talked about so it feels so isolating

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