Should I be worried about developement?

[FourJays]

DS2 is nearly 4, not great at language. He can talk buit seems to prefer making silly noises, screaming etc - most of my friends whose kids are a year younger than him speak better. He has a few friends at nursery - but prefers either older of younger children. Not really interested in drawing, writing or any formations. As a baby he was really physically advanced - crawled at about 6 months and walked by 12 months.

Playschool have noted a few times that he won't always respond to his name or any requests to tidy up - he'll just sit with a defiant look. He doesn't do as he is told. I've had his ears checked out and he doesn't seem to be deaf - no history of ear infections either.

When he wants something he'll ask for it repeatedly until I do it, which is quite frustrating. Like - I want cheese, I want cheese, I want cheese......
He's "into" things like a toddler-going through drawers,cupboards, make up bags etc. My older son had stopped doing this by his age.

He is a stubborn child and I don't know if it is just his personality or if I should be concerned about his development.

He sounds very much like my dd1 - crawling at 6 months, walking at 10 months, now nearly four years but speech is behind (but not hugely behind). She is simply far more interested in all physical things rather then thinking and talking. She is also incredibly stubborn, and it is quite normal for a child of this age to ask for things repeatabley to try and wear you down. (in dd1's case 'I want chocolate I want chocolate ........).

It's also quite normal at this age to go through bags/drawers - I don't think that's a toddler thing - it's just what they do because they are bored and are looking for other things to do.

It's also quite normal to sit with a difiant look and refuse to tidy up!

I know that I'm not worried about my dd1's development, I know she's is within the normal range (she did have a slight hearing problem so it's good you've ruled that out with your ds).

If you really are concerned about his deveopment, why not talk it over with your GP?

Thinking about it. We have his first "open evening" at school next week so will bring up concerns with teacher.
Think it's cos DS1 was and is one of those incredibly angelic eager to please kids (most of the time) and DS2 so different. He really couldn't care less what we think of him!