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Alcohol.....

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jellibabe · 18/02/2008 19:24

Maybe this is a huge mistake posting this on mumsnet. However have been struggling with alcohol for the last couple of years. Been through some tough times. Also alcohol seems to be a pattern in my family. Have been in touch with an addiction clinic but feel a bit afraid. I have two beautiful children whom I adore. Scared that social services will come in like the FBI and take them away from me. Don't get me wrong the house is not a total shambles and on the surface it would seem that I am coping but it is all a sham. Does anyone have some good advice?

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nickytwotimes · 18/02/2008 19:27

jelli, good on you for recognising your problem. I have no first hand experience, but have a friend who has had problems with drink in the past and who goes to AA. I'm not saying you're an alcoholic, but if you have issues around alcohol, it is worth a bash? The social services will not take your kids away! I will see if I can get a link for AA.

nickytwotimes · 18/02/2008 19:29

try this

hellobellosback · 18/02/2008 19:31

this thread is full of helpful information and lot of people in a similar situation. I too have a lot of close relations who drink far too much. Recently I have had to drink sensibly if I want to drink at all, but I certainly wouldn't recommend the diseases I've been diagnosed with!

KacyB · 18/02/2008 19:37

Hi Jelli,

Have you spoken to a counsellor at all?

I used to think I had an alcohol problem and used to drink heavily, but when I made the decision to stop, I found it quite OK...

I am the sort of person who doesn't find it easy to 'have just the one' so I don't drink at all, but I do find that makes it easier....

Keeping a diary of when and how you drink might also be helpful for understanding what makes you feel like drinking? That way you might be able to avoid trigger situations?

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jellibabe · 18/02/2008 19:39

Thanks was expecting the advice which i've been given recently which was don't buy any - like i didn't think of that.

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LardyMardyDaisyBoo · 18/02/2008 19:39

hi jellibabe

You're not alone on MN; there are many women in a similar situation (myself included) who feel that their relationship with alcohol is unhealthy. You have done a hugely brave thing posting about it as well; I know myself just how much courage that can take.

Come and chat to us over on the thread hellobello linked to; there is lots of support and friendly non judgemental advice.hope to talk to you over there soon.

daisy xx

KacyB · 18/02/2008 19:43

Jelli,

I should echo DaisyBoo's comments - MN is very helpful and non judgemental. The fact that you are able to admit to wanting / needing to change the situation is far braver than sitting back and doing nothing...

iwanttocutdown · 18/02/2008 20:04

I hope I've name changed for this Am a regular but need to change. Has anyone else woke uo in the mornings and thought that today's the day, but got to 5pm and had a drink? I need to cut down, and so does my dh. I've given up smoking (25 a day) four years ago and need to cut down/stop alcholhol. I do drink every day, have had a bottle of wine already (no little kids to look after, youngest is 10) but wasn't going to drink tonight. Is it just a habit or what? I have had "healthy" weeks where I've walked to school, had cups of tea instead of booze/non alchoholic beer and felt much better, BUT habits prevail and I just open a bottle. I have to run the kids aroud after school and I have actually begged Dh to come home before 8.30pm, so I don't have to pick whichever child up and can have a drink. Any ideas? I really want to go to dance classes/exercise stuff at night but dh doesn't get home in time and I've always drunk too much

LardyMardyDaisyBoo · 18/02/2008 20:34

iwanttocutdown, good for you for posting as well.

when I first joined the problem/dependant drinking thread I name changed as well, but it got too complicated so i gave up after a bit.

Anyway, you've taken the first step by admitting that you have a problem. Come over to the other thread as there is much more support and information on there than I can repeat here.

you will probably be surprised to see that there are some familiar names over there as well

Piffle · 18/02/2008 20:43

I want... In a very similar space. Not volume wise but craving the 5pm drink despite being up in the night telling myself today is the day. Well today is. Nothing today. I'm breastfeeding so not drinking much but my desire for it is what scares me. I was goingbto name change too. But.. Need to be real for this to work

madamez · 18/02/2008 20:49

If you are functioning (kids fed and clothed appropriately, bills paid etc) then there is no way the social services will take your DC away because you are seeking help for an alcohol problem. SOme people seem to be what is known as 'functional alcoholics' they drink much too much but (as yet) can hold down jobs, maintain relationships with the people around them and stay out of debt etc, maybe this is you. How bad your problem is, is something for you to sort out, best of luck with it.

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