DH always sleeping

[Mumtothreeandadog]

Seems DH 54 is always sleeping or sitting down watching tv. He has zero interest to do anything other than go to work, sleep or watch tv, I feel like I'm living with an old man in his 70s. As the days roll by it is getting more and more.

I have suggested that he goes to the Dr but as I already knew it was a total waste of time as he won't.

When he is not working he doesn't get up until 10am, walks the dog and falls asleep on the sofa in the afternoon. Walking the dog is his only exercise.

Did you suggest the doctor because you think he’s depressed or he is too tired for the amount of work he goes? There’s no cure for laziness and no motivation pill. What’s wrong with sleeping and sitting?

Mine is the same but he’s retired. Doesn’t get up until about 10.30, actively avoids doing any DIY or jobs that needs doing.

I'm the same. Always have been. I make sure everything is done, washing, ironing, batch cooking, hoovering, cleaning, but that's it.

Specifically what do you want him to do? DIY? Or go for a walk? Have you asked? Or suggested it?

I am concerned for his health, his DF had multiple health issues and his DM says that DF slept a lot during the day

DH doesn't have a physical job so no reason for all the sleeping.

DustyLee123 He used to love DIY but now he avoids it and other job that needs doing

We have 3 DC older teens/ 20s who all live at home, I feel like I am parenting them on my own now

DH was like that in his 50s but is much better now (74).
His night time sleeping used to be appalling. He would be up and down all night then falling asleep all day.
What I think has made the difference is him getting up early and going out walking or swimming. He's very inactive apart from that but sorting out night time sleep is definitely helpful.
Sleep apnea can also cause daytime sleepiness. Look at the Epworth sleep scale.

DH was like that for a while and, for him, it was serious but it was also a big change for him, he went from a man who couldn't sit still to a man who couldn't muster the strength to walk the dog in the space of a few weeks. Has he always been like it or is it new?

That sounds really depressing for you. I couldn’t live with someone like that. Does he not have any interests or hobbies. Any exercise? He sounds really unhealthy, so I’d try & encourage walks, swimmimg etc.

It is really depressing, his only exercise is walking the dog. No way he would swim

DC are still at home so I am trying to make the best of a difficult situation