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what is wrong with me anybody?? im NOT depressed

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mad4mybaby · 10/02/2008 18:51

i will try to cut a v long story short. I have 19 mnth ds whom i adore. When he was born he was very ill and in an out of hosp and having tests etc, cried all the time.. never slept. DH travels abit and went away when ds was just 6 weeks old. I coped. just! When i went for post natal check i had to fill out the depression/anxiety form and my gp said i had sever anxiety and mild PND. Went on pills... got better... Came off them November just gone.

Basically i am still getting panicky when ds crys. Mainly when he goes to bed. If he wont settle well and is crying and crying i get really anxious and feel like i could throw up. I know there is nothing wrong with him. When i put him to bed i walk away on tender hooks dreding him screaming. I was like this as soon as he was born and was mainly why doc put me on pills. I dont feel i came off them too soon and i am not depressed now coz i WAS depressed and dont feel the same now.

I feel odd. My moods are all over the place like bad constant pmt. DH just has to walk in the room and it'll hack me off. I lose my temper at ds and end up shouting at him sometimes and its unnecessary and worried why i cant control my feelings. I dont know what is wrong. im going to go docs tues to ask her but wondering if anyone out there felt remotly similar??

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PeatBog · 10/02/2008 19:05

mad4mybaby, I'm so sorry you're having such a bad time. Now, you probably won't want to hear this, but I felt very similar after two of my babies and was diagnosed with PND both times. I recovered with a combination of pills and counselling/therapy.

The first time I was diagnosed I was in complete denial/confusion - I really thought you had to be 'depressed' to have depression - but it covers many more things like anxiety, short temper/mood swings, etc. Remember, with a baby/toddler you can't exactly indulge any depressive feelings and stay in bed all day so any unhappiness/depression comes out in other ways.

So please do go to your doctor prepared for the possibility that they think you have PND.

Sorry if I've been a bit blunt.

mad4mybaby · 10/02/2008 19:14

oh poo i have posted this thread twice so have 2 diff threads going on. any idea how to merge them??

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Vacua · 10/02/2008 19:16

it does sound like it could be depression - the feelings of dread, the anxiety, the overwhelming stress, the irritability

it might not be, it might just be stress but the two can and do go hand in hand and if you've had one episode your chances of having another are increased

you have nothing to lose by getting it checked out and as you were helped last time then it follows that you'll recover again

PeatBog · 10/02/2008 19:19

sorry, I meant to say also that counselling - along with anti-depressants - makes a huge difference, so do ask for it if you're not immediately offered it.

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