handhold Mum having colon cancer surgery tomorrow

[Belsnickel]

not really sure what i want from this, im sure others hav ebeen through it.
DM dx with colon cancer about 7 weeks ago and is having surgery tomorrow.
she has no husband/ partner so im NOK and im just so filled with different emotions.

scans showed no mets but they will be removing an area and local lymph nodes ad examining them to see if she will need chemo. said they are hopeful not to need a stoma but wont know until they are in theatre. She is only 53 so shes so young.

i wont be at the hospital whilst she has the op ( is this normal/ should i go) as i have young children but they will call me when its done and depending on time of day i will see her later friday or on sat

Big hand hold and virtual hug from me.

thankyou. going to be a long day tomorrow waiting for news

Try not to worry too much. It's a really positive thing that your Mum is having the cancer removed tomorrow - hold on to that. It's also really positive that scans are not showing the cancer as having spread.
It could be a long operation, so don't worry if you don't hear how it's gone until quite late in the day. I hope it all goes well for your Mum tomorrow.

It's good that they've reacted so quickly. Thinking of you.

It's an unnerving time. My DH had this in the last couple of years (he's doing well now). I didn't go the hospital or anything as we have a young child. The operation ran over due to a complication and the surgeon called me as soon as it was over, whilst I was in the middle of nursery pick up. I think she realised I wasn't catching the details so basically finished up by just saying all was well. Think I would have seen him the next day in the HDU though he wasn't really saying much as he was on a lot of painkillers. It's really hard with the uncertainty and not knowing what to expect but in my experience all the professionals were really good and I felt good putting my trust in them.

Hand hold here. This happened to my mum pre-pandemic and all fine now, seems like it never happened in a weird way.

last spoke to her around 1.30 and she thought she woud be going down about 11. said approx 3 hours though i know that it can take longer depending on what they find when in there. just trying to keep busy doing jobs

I hope everything goes well for your mum 💐

I'm sorry you are going through this, it must be very hard. The positive side is that the cancer hasn't spread and that her treatment starts soon.
Big hand hold and hugs. Your mum is lucky to have such a supportive daughter. ❤

My dad had this a year ago although his almost stage 4 cancer was in the rectum and huge! He had ignored symptoms for years! It hadn’t spread though. He had to have a colostomy and before the surgery he declared he wanted to die as he couldn’t live with a bag. My mum was in a terrible state as she read about people having terrible trouble with them online.

Fast forward a year and my dad is absolutely fine. He recovered well and quickly from the surgery and has had no trouble with his stoma. We don’t even notice he has it. He changes it morning and night, has never had a leak or any trouble with it. He had to have chemo tablets - didn’t feel poorly or lose his hair or have any symptoms at all. Same with radiotherapy. He now does everything he did a year ago and worked throughout treatment.

Be wary of what you read online as people tend to post when they are having problems - you don’t hear about everyone who breezes through it.

i hope everything goes well for your mum. It’s a horribly stressful time for everyone so look after yourself x

Fingers crossed for you all. Dm had similar 10+ years ago and is still here.

Very best wishes to your mum.

I had an op to remove a cancerous bowel tumour over 10 years ago. I'm very hopeful for your mum if the medics are hopeful that she won't need chemo. I had chemo- radiotherapy before the op as there were several spots of it. They found clusters in two lymph nodes so I had post op chemo which was pretty horrid but not as bad as I thought it would be. It sounds like they've caught your mum's cancer at a fairly early stage.

thanks so much everyone, im glad youve had positive experiences. just waiting to hear from them, hoping its not too long

Very best wishes to your mum OP and I hope you hear soon how it's gone.

I just wanted to pop on and reassure you in the event she does need a stoma - I have one, I'm 38, and it doesn't stop me doing anything at all. You can do anything with one, honestly.

Thinking of you today, my Dad's waiting for staging investigations for colon cancer. Echo the other reassuring posters about stomas, another family member has one and manages brilliantly.

still havent heard anything. Rang the ward she went into and they said they think she still in surgery (this was about 3.30pm) and werent sure what time she went down. rang the ward she will be going to and they dont know anything just that shes not with them yet

Hand hold while you wait

thank you. im sure they know exactly what theyre doing and everything will have gone fine, but its just that niggle isnt it, in case something has happened. although id like to think if that was the case we would be notified right away

I know this is a couple of months old now, I really hope your mum is doing well?

I have a couple of questions if you don't mind as I think my dad is going to be facing similar?