Floods of blood, what can I do?

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My mother has had bowel problems for a good few years now. She is gradually deteriorating.

She now said has floods of blood coming out in a big mess in her stools. She has been told she needs most of her bowel removed and a stoma.

She doesn't want to visit people due to her bowel movements and is anxious about leaving the house and her mental health has also deteriorated

She says they had a date pencilled in for the 5th of December but hasn't heard anything. Is there anything I can do to advocate for her to ensure she gets this operation sooner rather than later, as she is in agony and sounds like she is giving up. I am very worried.

My mother in law got her op because she had cloudy wee and infection but my mother has had infections too.

Please help!

Phone the consultants secretary or the stoma nurse maybe & tell them of the sudden change? If the date is pencilled in, but she hasn’t yet heard, it may not be happening. Has she had a pre-op done?
I hope she can have it done quickly, sounds utterly miserable for her.

Yes she has had the pre-op. She even admitted to depression and being disheartened, which is so unlike her. Excruciating pain and being unable to leave the house will do that to you I guess.

She has mentioned having the urge to jump in front of a train before - again so unlike her.

She suspects the OP is not going ahead. I'm not sure I know what so can do for her.

Ring the surgery sectary to find out what is happening.

Ring her consultant's secretary. Tell them exactly what is happening and see what they can tell you.

Thank you.
I think she said she has been ringing every couple of days for cancellations but unsure as to who she is ringing to do this.
I have told her to ring the consultants secretary or give me the number and so will do it.

If she is that unwell, and losing blood then she will be priority . I would definitely ring consultant sect and maybe pre admission as well if you can?

Yes stoma nurse is also a good idea as PP said. Unfortunately if her mental state is so low pre op, it's going to be a very hard recovery too so please be aware of that. I wonder if she would benefit from some anti depressants or something ? Might be worse ringing the GP?

She said that they know about the large amounts of blood in her stools. She doesn't have a stoma now. The OP is to get a stoma and to have most of her bowel removed.

I think she got anti-depressants and said they didn't work. For someone like her to get anti-depressants is totally out of character, so she must feel hopeless.

She lives far away and hasn't replied yet but I will keep texting her the suggestions here.

If there is no response or if she has to wait and wait for proper treatment, this is one of the situations where A+E would be the right choice. Losing that amount of blood is not a good sign and can leave her weak and anaemic I'd guess. I would go to A+E, what she is experiencing is not right at all.

Wishing you the best and I hope she gets the treatment she needs.

I agree I think when you are in agonising pain like that and losing blood every day A and E should see it as a medical emergency.

My mother in law was in excruciating pain and was being ignore me but she turned up at the doctors with her pee bottle shouting this isn't right and they put her in an ambulance and she has an emergency Op but I think that was because she was infected too.

She was being ignored I meant

You need to take her to A&E.

Call her and tell her you are calling an ambulance for her, or get her to call one for herself.

Your mother should phone 111 as they will be best able to direct what she should do.