Would you take yours to school like this?

[ROSEgarden]

DD is in reception, she is ABSOLUTELY full of cold..she coughed and sneezed constantly last night, she been the same all day and really looks poorly(face puffy, nose constantly running, coughing), she hardly slept last night, ill put her in with me again tonight as shes still coughing and has just been sick everywhere

my thouhgts are not to take her given that she wont be able to concentrate and will disrupt everyone/pass her germs on and she's so full of it an looks shatterd...but WOULD YOU??!

I agree Twinkle - you should not be punished for being unwell, or made to feel like you are slacking somehow, on the one hand we are told to look after ourselves properly, and on the other hand we are given rewards and incentives to go to work/school even if we are poorly and need to recover.

We're all supposed to be above nature somehow these days - it's like we/our employers resent the need for us to eat, sleep, recover from illness etc. Those TV adverts for flu remedies really wind me up - you know the ones? "For people who just get on with it" etc. My god, if you've got full blown flu you need to be at home in bed, nowhere else.

I feel very strongly about this one, as someone who struggled into work through a flu virus and throat infection because I felt guilty and was worried about the work piling up. What happened? I ended up with a post-viral syndrome that wiped me out for three months. It took me more than 2 years to recover properly. Now I'm a lot more careful, and to hell with what anyone else thinks of me.

Absolutely. If I am ill, I dont go in. If its a bit of a headache, of course I will go in see how it goes. If I am more ill than that, I stay at home, for me to get better and to stop it spreading.

If DD is ill, I wont send her to nursery and I wont go into work if DH cant take time off. I am lucky that I can either have a parent day if its only one or two days, or if its longer, or I have already used some parenting days recently I will take it as short notice holiday.

children must learn to stay put and recover while they are young enough not to become guilt ridden about being ill.

No way would I send her in. What is she going to gain by going in? Don't think she is in a good state to learn anything.

I prescribe cuddles and duvet until she just has common cold symptoms, she is able to sleep better at night and her energy has returned.

Hope she gets better soon

At DDs nursery they are not allowed to return until they haven't been sick for 48 hours.

Pavlov, you have official "parenting days"? Is that paid or unpaid? How does that work?

HI all...no i wasnt planing on taking her in, in my OP i said my thoughts are not to take her in, i was seeing how she was this morn to make a descision..her sickness(i think( wasdue to coughing nothing else like a bug), but lately school give me the impression they think i soft soak her and i was of the impression if i said dd has 'cold' they would be rolling their eyes!

Anyway, im a cm, and i have a mindee who comes at 7.30 each morning, but luckily today is my 'no mindees through day' day, so go dp to ring work say he would be late, i used car to take mindee to school(they open at 8.30 for reading), rushed back then dp went off to work, just me and dd all day...i WILL have to take dd with me for school pick up at 3pm, unless she gets worse, so will keep fingers crossed..told school secretary, she was concerned about dd and said fine, so will see how dd is later..TBH, she seems much better now anyway, shes sat playing nintendogz on mindees DS!

oh and yes, running my own business, i am made to feel terrible if i am ever ill and need time off and have still had parents drop their children off with me when ive had D&V!!!, even though ive said they amy catch it and i cannot physically look after them!!!!(long time ago now, more assertive since that tho!)

She needs to be at home. She is poorly.

I also get a certain number of paid leave each year to be at home with a sick child (or any dependent actually). I did when I was teaching also.

I have completely wiped out my sick record this academic year at work. Had 6 weeks off in September-October, and now on week 7 of 8 weeks off since November. Will have had 12 weeks off sick! Work are not best pleased but what can you do? I have had two minor ops but with some really heavy duty hormone treatment afterwards making me feel too bad to work. I will be called in on return for a special "return to work" interview, and will be up against a meetin with my boss and HR later in the year as a result - to justify my absence. Obviously I can do this as covered by sick notes, but it is all the stress and hassle linked to it all. Makes everything seem much worse.

..shes just asked how long before school finshes so she can see her friends(the ones i cm for!)..shes asked if she can go in for lunch and stay!!!..but looking at her shes like death warmed up so we're tidying her room and playing with some toys she hasnt had chance to play with yet since christmas!

i hate it when people send kids in absolutely full of snot and germs as my ds has a lowered immune system and i know i can't keep him in a big bubble. but still....

yeah thats how dd got this in the first palce!..still shes not been sick again , still has awful cough, so we'll see how we go tonight but tbh i think she'll be fine for tomrrow, think today has set her straight

ROSEgarden - it was clear you weren't planning on sending her in. My general humpiness in my post was directed at all those who send them in regardless! at silly school who possibly thinks you soft soak your DD. How can they possibly know that do they have spy cameras set up in your home? Its sometimes really hard to tell if they are well enough for school / nursery in the morning when you only have an hour or so to work out how they feel.

Peaches - there is the official 3 or 5 weeks cant ever remember which we are entitled to take with a child under the age of 6, it is unpaid, however we get discretionary time off if a child is sick, which is paid, example dd had croup and was in hosp over weekend period, i had week before and week after off work. manager authorised 1 week paid 'parent leave' which was officially recorded and the other as annual leave. its about compromise really, not to be abused, if its a genuine sickness they are understanding.

no, the comment re them thinking i soft soak her was in relation to another matter and ive got the impression they think im over protective..
well dd has been fine today, coughed a lot walking back from school run in rain tho..otherwise running around like usual, only ate breakfast and small lunch today, would eat dinner, so didnt push her, shes just gone to bed and cough cough coughed again until she was sick...now i KNOW its the coughing and not a bug as it only happens when shes laying down and she has been better than fine today(other than this awful cough)..so this time i AM confused over what to do?..she has been playing fine all day, only got 'coughy' when we were rushing back from school in rain and was only sick tonight due to couhging laying down...i know she wont eat much tomorrow, just dont want her coughing her guts up if shes running round in play ground