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Sterilisation, vasectomy or something in between?

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peatbogfaerie · 17/01/2008 16:59

we don't want any more children. I have got over the idea of dh dying suddenly and me remarrying and wanting more kids. don't want to use condoms anymore and for boring reasons I can't take the pill. diaphragm gives me endless probs and too many friends and relations have mysteriously got pregnant on coil.

am I missing something, or is the snip the only option? any experiences gratefully received.

meanwhile am off to browse tiaras while I wait for responses

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leedslassy · 17/01/2008 17:02

apart from celibacy then probably the only option is the snip as far as I can see - unless like you say I am missing something.

My dh is going to go for the snip (well he has been since May 2006)and to be honest I know its painful (well I don't know personally but have speokn to a friend who had it done) but tbh thats nothing compared to 46 and then 27.5 hours in labour!!!

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peatbogfaerie · 17/01/2008 17:05

thanks for yr speedy response, LL. celibacy def. not an option, I'm grateful to report.

So now I'm wondering whether there are any major side effects to me having the snip. Should really get off a*se and google it myself, but still interested in any MN advice.

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Milliways · 17/01/2008 17:31

I had this done years ago. No regrets. It's a day case with 2 stitches required (belly button & bikini line).

There is a minimal risk of future ectopic pregancies apparently.

Jambuttie · 17/01/2008 17:57

I was sterilised 3 onths after having my twins( 3 kids enough for me thankyouverymuch lol)!!!

DH had the snip 3 momths after that I was terrified of falling pg again LOL

A few months later i had to have a hysterectomy anyway lol so deffo no more for me

nimnom · 17/01/2008 18:03

My dh had the snip last year - best thing that could of happened- very liberating

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peatbogfaerie · 17/01/2008 18:26

how easy was it to persuade dhs to get the snip, nimnom and jambuttie? (she asks in cowardly fashion)

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OLDroot · 17/01/2008 18:29

coil

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peatbogfaerie · 17/01/2008 18:34

hmmm, but my aunt, my bf and my ma's bf all got pg using coil, so I will not be relaxed. Also, with my history, I suspect I would get endless infections.

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summer111 · 17/01/2008 19:11

DH, who feels ill at the mere thought of hospitals, had the snip exactly a week ago. He is still shocked at how easy it all was. He had it done under a local anaesthetic at our health clinic and was out in half an hour. He had last Friday off work but returned to work on Monday.(walked cautiously the first two days)
He had very minimal bruising, little discomfort and has kept saying how easy it all was. He was thrilled when he had an erection the next day - 'it still works'
In fact as the procedure was being done, he said he just chatted away to the doctor! The worst bit for him seems to be the itchiness of his pubes regrowing as he says himself, he cant be seen scratching his balls at work! He has to give two samples over the next few months and then hopefully , we get the all clear.

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peatbogfaerie · 17/01/2008 19:18

veeeerrrry interrressting, summer . My dh has ishews in that area, so it may be impossible to persuade him, but good to know it is relatively straightforward.

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claricebeansmum · 17/01/2008 19:23

DH is off tomorrow to doctor to ask for snip (not there and then!)

I worry that he would want more children with someone else if something happened to me but he says weighing that up against having another baby is a no brainer! He really can't bear the thought of another child - we would have to move, change car etc.

I have a Mirena but would quite like my body to have some normality before the menopause.

nooka · 17/01/2008 19:30

dh had the snip two or three years ago now and it's great. Improved our love life no end, as I was really worried about getting pregnant again, and dh didn't want me to use the pill any more (after eight years pre childen). Has had no side effects on him at all - pretty much the same experience as summer's dh. I bit brusied for a few days and then itchy for a little while. It's such a simple procesdure for a man, and I do think it's more than fair for them to be snipped rather than us, as pregancy/childbirth/breastfeeding seems more than a fair balance to a bit of discomfort!

Jambuttie · 17/01/2008 19:31

It was very easy to convince DH in fact it was hi idea

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peatbogfaerie · 17/01/2008 20:39

okay. many thanks for your offerings. I will work on dh first and report back (I may be a few days ...)

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nimnom · 18/01/2008 10:15

peatbogfaerie,
In the end it wasn't too difficult - I didn't want to go back on the pill, the coil was a disaster for me and I had too difficult pg's and deliveries - so there wasn't much choice really. Also, I had already enquired with my gp about being sterilised and told not a chance.

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peatbogfaerie · 18/01/2008 10:23

why did he say that, NN?

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blushingm · 18/01/2008 13:38

dh bf had the snip - they 'forgot' the anestethic in the 2nd side and after all that he is just as fertile as he was before - so even that is not fail safe plus i know someone who was serilised but then fell pg with twins

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peatbogfaerie · 18/01/2008 19:28

perhaps we should both have it done, blushingm

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mylittlepudding · 18/01/2008 19:36

There has not been a case of pregnancy with a correctly located Mirena yet in England. If that helps.

nooka · 18/01/2008 21:19

I don't think anything is 100%. The other advantage of vasectomies is that the waiting lists aren't that long - dh put it off because he thought he'd have to wait years, but when I went in and asked they said it would be weeks.

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peatbogfaerie · 19/01/2008 10:46

thanks, MLP, but any synthetic hormones - ie the pill and, as I understand, the mirena, have weird effects on me, so I didn't want to risk that.

dh didn't immediately cross his legs when I mentioned 'vasectomy'. I think I will let it stew for a bit in his head before mentioning again.

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