The Doctor told DP that I should 'get something'rather than him have 'the snip'!

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DP finally went to Doctors today to discuss. having a vasectomy (3rd DC was a pleasant surprise and he vowed on the day we found out I was pg that he was going for the snip!) the doctor turned round and gave him leaflets on the coil, diaphragm and implant so DP knew all his options!!!!
(this after 10 yrs on Pill for me followed by high blood pressure and 3 DC's DP is 39yrs old and is more adamant than me that 3 dcs is it!!)
He is then to go back and discuss it further, p'hraps it didn't help that when Dr asked DP why he wanted one he said' the missus says I have to!'
anyone else had a similar experience???

go to another doctor.

i think it's outrageous, but probably economics based.

sorry, but am laughing too much to answer properly.

I am trying to picture just where a man would have a coil fitted....., or even where the diaphragm would go.

Physcomum thats what I said to DP and then he just looked confused and said ' no, the doctor said these were for you to read along with this website address to have a look at!'

Hmm, while it does sound on the surface that the GP was being a sexist arsehole (statistically vasectomy is much less of a health risk than anything apart from condoms) but maybe your DP went in with a sad-puppy face and lines like 'don;t really want my cock fiddled with, doc, but her indoors says I have to...' It's possible that your DP has a few ishoos around having his equipment decomissioned, even though he knows it's a fair and honourable thing to do, etc.

hey there we must have the same lives....or have we got the same gp? eventually got dh to go, dc3 is two years old and he very recently 'got round to it' (i offered him a diy job with 2 bricks and a bit of penicillin so i think that did it) and the response was just as you describe. I smell a rat, i think it's these wussie blokes sticking together!

ahhhhh.....well then, I would say that madamez has suggested, he went in all long faced and both being men, they decided that you should be the one having to make the descision.

tis ok, you can decide that you want him to have the 'snip'......

you can also suggest that he do what my DH did when he went in to talk to the doctor.

when the doctor asked why, DH handed him a photo of a very pregnant me surrounded by our four other children.

doctor agreed!!!

I have p'hraps wrongly threatened loss of sexual stuff until at least on the waiting list/been referred etc ..he has quoted that when DC3 was born Midwife asked him if he was going to have vasectomy he said 'oh yes' at which point she said to me 'get a coil it'll take him 10yrs to pluck up the courage' I've told him to get a piece of metal inserted up his bits and we'll call it even ....(need to book him return visit with the female locum)before I do a DIY job on him gigglewitch good idea , will look up instructions on Pig Keepers website

nothing more to say

except

that is bloody outrageous

He def has issues me thinks he also doesn't 'like' condoms but I can't use Pill, Mini Pll has bad effect on me .scared of coil (would apparently have to have the 'old fashioned' type according to the same Dr!)and think caps is just as fiddly as condoms and FGS why should it all be down to me!!!

you could always lie and tell him you are pregnant again, and then watch him go white and run to the docs yelling for it to be done.......

From memory, the decision had to be ExH and ExH alone. The dr spoke to him alone, so if your man said anything about you saying he had to, the doc (I think) will advise alternatives

Minority...I have got my suspicions we will see how keen he gets in a few days time am v tempted to use Physcomums suggestion that will work next week !!! Good Idea , shall maybe wander in with Clearblue sticking out the top of the Weekly Shop!!!

PMSL..........a test pack in the bathroom bin maybe.

I'd imagine that one of the targets the doctor has to hit is putting the code for 'information on contraceptive options provided' onto the record of 95% of all men who ask for a vasectomy. Hope your dh gets back in there immediately.

(It's a bit like that thing about lawyers having to send people who come in asking for a divorce away for 18 months cooling off. I know that was threatened at around the time I was leaving my xh - thank God it was killed off. Like most people asking for a divorce, I'd taken well over 2 years already to make the decision to leave. IMO the people who decide to get divorced on a whim are like 'the too posh to push brigade' - they don't exist. but how the commentators love to think that Other People make major decisions in their lives without the kind of thought that people such as themselves do.

sorry for hijack)

dh was 28 I think... > when he got it done. We expected the gp to argue, or that we would have to wait ages, but gp just said "oh, ok" " weeks later it was done.

lol at clearblue etc. i am also thinking of trying the "we're having no4" and watch his face or is that a shortcut to divorce
pig keepers website - yep, that's the one.

yeah, i think he went in with that puppy dog 'i'm here because of my partner' routine.

To be fair, like any other medical prodecure it has to be the decision of the person who's having it done. There's been some squawking on here about the DH who wanted his DW to have a boob job, and there have been plenty of bitter battles in the past (not just on here) over men who insisted that they should have to right to order/veto the termination of a pregnancy never mind what the woman thought.

However, if a man really, really doesn;t want the snip and his partner is not keen (or has been advised against on health grounds) all the options that work on women;s bodies, then he's got to accept: using condoms or everything other than vaginal penetration. Till the menopause.