mums/dads of older boys -can anyone tell me...

[MaryAnnSingleton]

..what the symptoms of a too tight foreskin might be ? would it hurt/be red/swollen ?

i only had one

too

never occurred to me to concern myself with his willy

ditto girls managed to never think of asking after their bits either

I wasn't trying to do that at all, sorry. Just trying to make you see that I don't think you need to be quite so thorough. I didn't know what was normal and what was not with my first boy.. and he ended up needing a circumscision for a too-tight fore skin, but trust me, it was obvious there was a problem.

is he complaining if so take him to the gp

I think I'm just feeling anxious anyway and I get things into my head where I feel I have to make sure everythings absolutely ok,that I've done my best. I'm certainly not trying to give my son a complex.

what are his symptoms?

I think if it looks fine, it probably is. Can't say I have looked at ds's much since he was a toddler, but I really wouldn't worry if he's not complaining.

no symptoms actually - I just thought perhaps it looked a little tight in the bath when he was cleaning it - he will say it's sore sometimes but he tends to pick up on suggestion -he'll say it's sore because I've asked and he then thinks it might be,iyswim...but it loks fine, no redness or swelling...I think I'm in a pickle about this weeing thing and imagining all sorts (the weeing thing is his inability to get the drops of wee off before pulling up his pants)

probably no need to worry then..no idea about shaking drops off

think all these things were outside my interest tbh

best not to look for anxieties

That what little boys pants are for to absorb the wee drops.

And big boys pants actually

Seriously should boys wipe after weeing?? I'm feeling very remiss and slovenly.

Mind you i don't even get them to wash their hands before a meal so I'm obviusly not overly hygiene conscious, which I tell myself is a good thing again.

ok, points taken - will chill a bit . Thanks anyway

Although I am generally slovely maryAnn, so drops of urine don't overly worry me, I am quite neurotic about their haelth and my DS1 also has tight forskin issues!

I'm encouraging him to play aroubd a bit more (he's strengely uninterested in his willy) and have no qualms abot having agood look myself! He's 8.

BTW I had a good look at your friends website you linked to the other day (the clothes) she had some great ideas and has inspired me to buy some bright coloured tights!! I even have recommended it to some frineds!

aww- she'll be very pleased ! she helped me choose a dress for a party by sending me loads of good ideas !

btw drops of urine every time make a lot of drops by the end of the day - don't want him smelling like an old bloke

No the slightest whiff can get you stuck with a derogatory nickname for life!

gives up already!

Yes do tell her, I kept her in mind when I went shopping and tried to more adventurous!

Mind you,my dress was/is black - so she hasn't cured me of colour/pattern fear !

Incidently, tales of the city are some of my favourite books ever.

I think the only books I've reread several times since being an adult.

My adult equivalent of Malory Towers! (I mean this in a good way, Enid Blyton intriduced me to the love of reading)

yes, I think they're probably the only books I've read several times - love them !

hijacking my own thread to alert you to my posting on coloured tights in style and beauty StillWaters !

bumping this for StillWaters attention !

mary - my ds had an operation for a 'tagged frenulum ' last week
his will was fine but we could not draw the foreskin back
first took him to docs at 11 ish and kept getting sent away - finally operated last week and all seems well so far

could this be the issue here?

just read a bit more and tbh it sounds very very similar..

ds was never sore and it was just about the time i thought maybe i should teach him to draw back and clean - that we realised he couldn't

tbh i would not encourage it if it is sore beacsue we were told a slight tear can casue adhesions which make it worse

hi Paula -thanks for that info - have just been to the doctor who said it looked fine to him, the foreskin is a little tight but nothing to worry about and should loosen as he gets older -he can try stretching it a bit in the bath but no need to do anything else. He is taking a wee sample in case of urine infection and reckons that any extra leakage might be the speedy nature of a boy's weeing proceedure and any little drops that get caught in end of the skin, so a good dabbing with loo paper will help. Hope your ds is ok byw.

Does anyone know at what age you should start washing under the foreskin?

My parents were very uninformative with me about this. So I disagree that it's weird to talk about any potential problems particularly if it might avoid an unnecessary circ/frenuloplasty as an adult.

not sure what age - and thanks for not thinking me weird !