My husband has a sore bottom, please help!

[cultkid]

Hi there
My husband told me last night he has been in awful pain for a week in his bottom. He told me it was his back!! I can't believe he didn't tell me.

So it seems to be his anus. He said inside his anus it's a stabbing pain. Awful. This guy has been burned all over his legs and taken paracetamol for it whilst at a burns unit for example. So I think he could've missed something

He said there's nothing on his anus that he can see. Blood only once. No other symptoms. He is not itchy. Just extreme pain inside the anus. Which has been taking paracetamol for, quite a lot

He sAid he hasn't been constipated at all. Nothing changed but he is a plumber and therefore lifts heavy items. Not sure if this could be it.

Its hurting through the day and night even if he didn't recently do a poo

Good news on the cream helping rule out or in what it is.

Urgh I'm annoyed at him I would go to the doctor if it happened to me because I owe it to the family. He is only 36 and I am 29, we have three children!!

Tell him that it makes sense to go to a doctor now whilst it's still probably a minor problem (on a scale of 1-10) rather than an A & E type of emergency.

It could be proctalgia, I had that after a failed stapled hemorrhoidectomy.
They are both excruciating and even more painful then they sound.
The recovery for the hemorrhoidectomy was five weeks in bed.
If he doesn't sort it out properly it will only get worse.
Honestly when it gets worse it's almost insurmountable.

I know it sounds horrendously unsympathetic, but I’d be tempted just to let him get on with it. You’ve bought him haemorrhoid treatments and encouraged him to go to a doctor multiple times, that’s enough!

He’s an adult with 3 children, if he’s refusing to go to the doctor (for something that is unlikely to be serious too, I’d have much more sympathy if he was worried about receiving bad news) then he can put up with having a sore arse 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would think it is a fissure. I had a fissure - was prescribed more and more painkillers - ending up with fentanyl - but I was still in horrendous pain. In the end I had botox treatment ( don't laugh) and that was the first time in 3 years I was without pain. Previously I had been unable to walk more than 100metres at a time and was NEVER without pain. 6 years later and still without pain. Thoroughly recommend it!

Sounds like you have four children to be honest.

Honestly, it’s horrible that he is in pain but why pander to him like a child.

I did read about Botox. It's an amazing discovery
I'm thinking he has a severe case 😩

If he is saying the pain is in his back it could be a pilonidal sinus

www.nhs.uk/conditions/pilonidal-sinus/

Can be v painful.

But yes, doctor. No other solution.

@cultkid I am due to have Botox straight into my bowel before surgery.
It's amazing what it can do!
Encourage him to go/ drag him there (to the quacks) Especially in light of all the attention on bowel cancer.
You just never know.

I've had an abscess down there, hideous pain which made me nearly pass out. They can try antibiotics but I needed a quick op to remove it.

I've had an abscess there removed in March. It was so painful I said I'd rather give birth again! No fever or pus but I had half a pint removed... not visible on the outside, only picked up on an ultrasound. Had surgery to remove it same day.

An anal fissure feel like you are sitting on broken glass and when you shit, it feels like you are shitting broken glass.

You can spray bright red blood.

I had this for two years. In the end I healed it up with an antifungal shampoo.

I have never been more thankful for the good health of my anus.

@DilemmaDelilah interesting about the Botox. My son is having this for a fissure in a couple of weeks. It has been such a long process to get to this point and I am hoping the fissure finally hears. Being done under general anaesthetic.

My DH had this. Said it was really painful and like a tennis ball up his arse, his words not mine.
Turns out anal pain in men can be prostate related and his was a prostate infection.

Bum knives

🤣🤣🤣🤣🎾

@gingergiraffe he will need to ensure that he has plenty of Movicol on hand after his procedure to ensure that he only has soft poos while the fissure is healing. I went on a short break to Portugal 3 days after mine and didn't take enough with me.... It was interesting trying to describe what I wanted to a Portugese pharmacist!

@DilemmaDelilah thanks for the recommendation. Will pass on.

Men tend to think their anus / penis is the most special one on the planet and the doctor will never have seen anything like it before. (Lightheartedly said, but gosh they’re so funny about going to the doctors about these things! Women have smears, child birth, coils fitted, all sorts…!)

This is so weird. As if all the posts on mumsnet about women bit going for their smears and refusing internal examinations during pregnancy/labour don't exist.

It's not a male/female thing. Some people are less bothered by having their bodies examined/touched than others.

God, why are so many blokes like this with going to get medical help? He really needs to see his doc. It could be many things- piles, fissure, IBD for example. Really hope it is just piles and the suppository’s/cream help, but the fact the pain is so severe and constant would make me think that’s probably not the case.

Sounds like piles. My dh had a strangulated hemorrhoid. He was in absolute agony. Dr sorted him out. I don't think a tube of cream will fix it.

hemorrhoidanswers.com/blog/what-is-a-strangulated-hemorrhoid/

I would say fissure.

DH had one and eventually had surgery

My husband died of bowel cancer. In his case he was misdiagnosed (with piles, ironically) rather than being a doctor refuser. But in your position I'd resort to everything you have in the book, emotional blackmail, threats, whatever you have, to make him see his GP.

(Obviously I'm not saying that that is what it is. Intense pain wasn't a feature of my DH's symptoms, but she the same, that part of the body is not to be ignored)