i had an anxiety attack this morning and still feel on edge......help me calm down please

[queenrollo]

i've had a lot of upheaval in the last few months, and have dealt with it all remarkably well.....break up of long term relationship, no longer full time mother etc and have recently met a wonderful guy and life was starting to look fantastic.
i've not been well the last couple of days and this morning had an anxiety attack and had lots of of thoughts like 'i don't really love my new man' (which is silly because i do)......he's coming up tonight and i'm split between needing him badly to help me through this, and dread that when he walks through the door i won't feel the same about him.
i've made a GP appt for the morning because i've suffered anxiety attacks before......but right now i feel so bad, and i'm really struggling to get this one under control.

please, please help me to calm down......

I know it's eaisiar said then done but try to stay calm I now how awful the attacks are and al the silly random thoughts that go through your mind.

Have a bath and put on some lovely music.

Don't think of anything, just enjoy the moment. We all get nervous when dating and these feelings of uncertainty are normal. My dh when he was just my db dumped me 6 months into our relationship because he wasn't sure if he loved me.
After a day apart he decided that he did.

Don't confuse what is normal with anxiety attacks. Accept that you are having an off-day and perhaps warn your new man in advance that you aren't feeling great today. You've been through a lot and sometimes you just need to accept how you feel and start again tomorrow.

Take deep breaths and try to focus on them. Just breathe in and out and listen to your breaths

You've been through a lot and this is the end result of the stress, take deep breaths and go for a relaxing bath and remind yourself that the upheaval is now over and its time for you to enjoy this new phase x

i spoke to my new man.....or should i say i held the phone for dear life while i was coming out of the worst of the attack. he knows how i'm feeling, and he said we'll slow things right down if that's what i need.

i'm feeling calmer now, deep breaths and having a glass of water.........

cancel him tonight as I think you might need some time on your own. He sounds understanding. Tomorrow is another day.

i can't cancel him tonight, he's making a 5 hour drive to be here..........he will sleep downstairs if i ask him to, hell he'd sleep in the car.....he really is such a great guy, and i know when he's here he'll take the weekend at whatever pace i want. to be honest i need him to come, or i'm just going to have this playing on my mind for two weeks before he comes up again.

How did it all go?